5 Ways To Heal a Broken Heart
♥There is no love without trust♥
Broken hearts– It’s that gut-wrenching pain that keeps us awake at night.
The same pain that retains us to our beds, as we lie awake staring at nothing.
It’s the moment you open your eyes; while reality slaps you in the face –the reality that it is certainly over.
…And there is just nothing that you can do about it.
Living with a broken heart is never easy. There is no quick way to mend it. There is no way to sugar coat the pain.
It’s just agonizing to know that you have given so much, you already did what you can do to make everything work but it still ends up hurting you.
If you are going through this path, you are not alone. Take it day by day. You will get through this.
1. Accept the Pain
I know this one is difficult. If you ever intend to get anywhere, accept that you’re going to go through 5 stages:
- Denial
- Anger
- Bargaining
- Depression
- Acceptance
Go through the pain, not around it.
Don’t try to hide it. Don’t try to mask it with the illusion that you are okay. Embrace the pain. Allow yourself to feel it.
Remember that ignoring the pain is not healing.
2. Allow yourself to cry.. or not, if you don’t want to.
Not everyone experiences heartache the same way.
Just remember, there is no right or wrong way to grieve.
Don’t be afraid to cry. Crying is never a sign a weakness.
Crying is a way for us to let go, a way for us to embrace the reality; and eventually the crying will stop, and you will rise stronger than you were before.
3. Let time heal your pain
I once thought that this line is just crap, but it’s not.
Time heals, your heart will heal. Some may say that time heals, but the scars stay. Yeah it’s true, but I see scars differently, scars are beautiful, it’s what makes you, you.
Scars are reminders of the battles and struggles that we have experienced, those battles and struggles that we have conquered.
So be patient and know that time will heal your pain.
4. Explore new things
If you have been putting something off a while back or if there was something that you wanted to pursue before but you never actually gave it a try then this is the perfect time to do it.
You may have lost yourself a long the way because of the pain, so this is the perfect time for you to find yourself.
Find that passion that was once inside you and channel it to something that you love to do. This will not only take your mind off things but this will also help you grow.
5. Love yourself again
I used to put so much blame on myself. I told myself a hundred times that I was the reason why it ended, that it was all my fault. But I realized blaming myself will not do anything, it will certainly not bring back the past, I’m just hurting myself more.
Blaming myself was preventing me from letting go, from moving on, it kept me on that same spot, the same spot where he has left me. If you are doing this, please stop!
Stop with all the blaming! Don’t be too hard on yourself, don’t be your self’s enemy. Love yourself, learn to love your whole self. All your weaknesses and strengths, all your flaws and assets, all your mistakes, that is you and You are beautiful!
Remember not all endings are painful. Some endings could be a blessing in disguise. If that relationship worked out as I hoped it would be, then I wouldn’t have felt the happiness and contentment that I am in right now.
So be patient. Pains don’t last.
And always remember that better things are coming. You are amazing and stronger than you think. You can do this!
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How do you deal with heartbreak?
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