12 Signs You’re Dating a “Player”
Is he a player or a keeper?
If it doesn’t feel right
…It’s not right.
There’s something irresistible about him. And yet, you can’t help the feeling that it’s too good to be true
. ..Is it?
You can tell if he’s genuine by the way he presents himself online, on a first date, through texts, etc.
If you feel like it’s going nowhere, check out some warning signs:
Here are 12 tell-tale signs:
1. YOU’VE NEVER MET HIS FRIENDS
He doesn’t have to put on a show in front of his friends.
They’re comfortable. So comfortable, his friends might accidentally slip up while you’re around and mention how “your guy” ditched them for Jessica last Saturday.
Hmm.. who’s Jessica?
2. PET NAMES
He said your name a lot at first. After all, psychological studies prove it’s endearing and flattering to hear your own name; thus, building rapport.
…However, after the initial flirting, he’s quick to call you “baby, gorgeous, babe, etc.”
Interchangeable names prevent mix-ups. It happens when you’re girl number six.
3. HE’S ALWAYS BUSY
He’s not the best texter. He goes off the grid often. It’s because he has to split his time between the women he’s juggling. Thus, creating an unpredictable schedule.
Be alert if he hits you up for spontaneous dates. You could be a backup when his original plans fall through
4. YOU‘VE NEVER SEEN HIS PHONE
Does he angle his phone away from you when he texts? Is his phone always face down?
Does he freak out when you reach past it to grab something?
These are a red flags.
5. HE‘S ALWAYS FRESH
Being freshly showered and smelling like cologne is attractive. He wants you to think he’s attractive.
Look out for the ones who always seem ready.
6. HE HAS A NICE CAR
If he has the funds, he’ll splurge on a nice car.
It’s a “chick magnet.” Flashy cars and trucks are a trademark purchase of a player.
7. HE‘S SUPER TOUCHY
He touches you when you laugh. He places his hand on your back to walk past you (when you aren’t even in the way.) He’s the kind of guy who’s always in your bubble before getting to know you.
He’s pushing your physical boundaries. It gives him a head start towards touching something else. Fortunately, it’s easy to recognize if he’s flirting with only you or if it’s his personality. It’s a habit that he can’t turn off. If he does it to other girls when he thinks you aren’t looking, there’s your sign.
8. HE‘S OVERCONFIDENT
He’s comfortable speaking with any girl. He’s had plenty of practice. Chances are he’s also arrogant and self-centered.
To quote KISS bassist, Gene Simmons, who claims he cheated on his long-term girlfriend with 4800 women, “I’m an incredibly powerful and attractive man.”
9. HE TAKES CRITICISM TO HEART
If you poke fun at misspoken statements or personality quirks, he won’t be into your sarcastic sense of humor. It’s a blow to his ego.
He may even retaliate with rude jokes every now and then. Off-handed comments help him test his level of control. Once he gains control, it’s easier to manipulate you into bed.
10. HE SEEMS TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE
If he says all the right things, he might be tuning into what he thinks you want to hear; and adjusting accordingly.
Our Instincts and intuition pick up on subtleties and file them away in the back of our mind. The problem is we convince ourselves it’s all in our head; especially when we want to believe it.
11. ONE-SIDED CONVERSATIONS
Conversations are completely focused on you or him.
Speaking about yourself makes you comfortable enough to let your guard down. It also helps him adjust his spiels to match your preferences. He speaks about himself to feed his ego.
Whomever the subject of conversation, he will eventually incorporate sexual topics regularly (Hint, hint ..wink, wink.)
The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior.
If he has a reputation for being a womanizer, he’s not likely to change now.
…Still not clear if it’s relationship material? Check out the videos below for some clarity:
Have you ever had a crush who turned out to be way different than you thought? Let us know in the comments!