butt stuff for the first time.Doing anything for the first time is intimidating. One of the best ways to make it seem less scary is to be prepared. It applies to doing a presentation in class, baking a complicated recipe, and it applies to trying
Butt stuff — whether we’re talking about anal fingering, fisting, anal sex, eating booty, using sex toys, or something else — is probably one of the most intimidating things out of all the sex stuff because it has a mysterious reputation, it involves back there, and it’s not talked about as much as other stuff. Here are Gurl, we’re down to talk about anything and everything so hopefully we can take some of the mystery out of booty stuff. That way you can feel more confident about it and know what to expect.
Have a look at seven things to know if you’re new to butt stuff:
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You Will Need A Lot Of Lube
This isn't a time to be cheap. If you're used to lube during other sexy stuff, get ready to use a lot more than you would for putting the P in the V. Lube up everything including the butt hole, fingers, condoms, sex toys, and anything else that is going near that butt. And don't be afraid to add more later. There's really no such thing as too much. Image source: Instagram/pr_lynn_cc
Communication Is Soooo Important
The butt hole is a sensitive area. If you thought that having vaginal sex for the first time was difficult, putting things up your butt can be more intense. That's why you need to ensure that you and bae are completely open with each other. You should feel confident in taking the lead of the situation and telling bae whether he/she is going too fast or being too hard. After all, it's your butt that is involved here. Image source: Instagram/aturnwin
Going Slow Is Key
Slow and steady wins the race. If you're in a rush, it's not the best time to try butt stuff. You need lots of time and patience. Even then you might not get a toy, finger, or penis all the way in. That's okay. Some people never do. Just go with what you feel comfortable with. And if bae is going too fast, make sure you speak up. Remember the last point. Image source: Instagram/hollycrandall
Good Hygiene Is Essential
Because you're dealing with a butt, it's paramount that you keep things clean. Having a shower or bath before you do anything never hurts. Secondly, you will want to make sure that the other person's hands are clean. And safe sex is essential. Another thing to remember is not to put anything that has been up a butt in another hole. Image source: Instagram/cocoongeneva
It Will Feel Very Different
It's hard to really describe what butt stuff is like until you've tried it. It's a bit different than everyone, but one thing is for sure, it will definitely feel different than anything else you've ever done. That includes vaginal sex. Some people like to describe it as intense, deep, or filling. Hello. Image source: Instagram/thedundeecake
You Might Feel That You Have To Go To The Bathroom
You might have heard the stories about people who have tried anal and have had to go to the bathroom in the middle of it. A lot of the stories are usually exaggerations, but there is some truth to it. It makes sense. If you're inserting anything back there, you're putting pressure on a sensitive part which can give you the impression of having to go to the bathroom. If you recently went, don't stress, you should be fine. Image source: Instagram/i.shomeinteriors_bylauren
It's Important To Try And Relax
I know, I know, it's a lot easier said than done, but try to remember it. When you're stressed and/or nervous, you will find the experience less enjoyable. What's more, you will find it more difficult to get comfortable and open up. Take a few deep breaths and know that if you don't like it or you find it too painful, you can ask bae to stop. To help you relax further, you can have a talk about what's going to go down with bae beforehand. Image source: Instagram/real_gaby_mt
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