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6 Things you Need to STOP Thinking About your Significant Other

6 Things you Need to STOP Thinking About your Significant Other

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I’ve talked a lot about things we need to stop thinking about our bodies. I’ve talked about boobs, bums, skin, and vaginas, to name just a few. I’m going to give the body positive talks a rest just for a moment and bring the focus to relationships.

It’s great if you have a lot of positive thoughts about bae. If you didn’t, then you would probably want to consider why you’re in a relationship with the person. That being said, there are a few things that you want to keep in check. If you get the wrong thoughts about bae stuck in your head, it could actually negatively impact your relationship. I know that it can sometimes be hard to get out of your head, but it’s important that you see bae for the person he/she is as opposed to the person you envision him/her to be in your head. With that in mind, have a look at six things you need to stop thinking about your SO:

1. That Bae Is A Flawless Human Being

I understand that you consider your significant other to be an amazing person. That’s probably why you decided to get together with him/her. But, you need to keep things in check. We have to remember that we’re all human beings and even people who seem totally perfect aren’t. No one is. Everyone has good qualities and not-so-great ones, just like they have good days and bad days. It’s important that you acknowledge all sides of bae.

2. That Your SO Doesn’t Have Feelings For You

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If you’re thinking this one, it sounds like you’re insecure in your relationship. You will want to take some time and take a good, hard look at your relationship to wonder why you’re feeling this way. If you’ve done that and you don’t have any *valid* points on why bae wouldn’t have feelings for you, you need to try and change your thought process. Think about it this way…If your SO wasn’t that into you why would he/she be spending all of this time with you? Exactly. Instagram/zowieconway

3. That Your SO Is Always Right

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No one is perfect. And no one is always right, either. You might have a SO who knows a fair bit about certain subjects, but he/she doesn’t know everything. No one does. Even if you’re going out with a walking dictionary or history book, he/she doesn’t know everything. You should be confident in your knowledge as much as you are in bae’s

4. That Bae Isn’t Trustworthy

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I’m going to preface this by saving you shouldn’t think this if you don’t have any reason to justify your thoughts. If you do have your reasons then they’re completely justified. But, if bae has been nothing but loving, attentive, and respectful and you still feel that way, you need to figure out why. Maybe there’s something going on with you on a subconscious level, maybe you got burned by an ex, or maybe you’re feeling self-conscious.

5. That You Need To Change Something About Yourself To Please Your SO

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Stop, girl. You need to get this toxic thought out of your head. If bae has never suggested or alluded to anything, you need cast it out of mind because it’s not true. If your SO has said something about changing your appearance, personality, studying habits, sleeping routine, whatever, you seriously need to consider whether someone like this is worthy of your time. FYI: It sounds like they’re not.

6. That You Have To Agree With Your SO

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This is similar to thinking that bae is always right, but they’re still two separate things. For example, there could be a time when you feel that you always have to agree with your SO even if you know he/she is wrong. Never feel that you have to agree with your SO. You are your own person and have your own thoughts. If bae has different views, you deserve to express yours as much as bae deserves to express his/hers. If you think that you have to agree with your significant other to keep the peace, why is that? Is it because you don’t want to cause a fight or bae will challenge you? No matter the situation, it can be a red flag so watch out. Instagram/icebe.rgtheory

What things did you think about your current SO when you first started dating? Let us know in the comments!

16 Reasons Being Single in the Summer is the Best

16 Reasons Being Single in the Summer is the Best

It’s the summer! Woot. If you’re single, you should own it because this is actually one of the best times of the year to be flying solo. Think about it: The weather is amazing, you hopefully don’t have to go to school, everybody is outside, and you’re not tied down by anyone. That means it’s the perfect opportunity to focus on you.

Of course, if you’re in a relationship, that’s brilliant. I’m not in any way suggesting that you break up with your bae just because it’s more fun to be single in the summer than the rest of the year, come on.

If you’re single and still don’t feel completely comfortable owning your single status this summer, listen up. These are just 16 of the reasons why being single in the summer is the best:

1. You can spend the summer creating epic memories with your friends.

If you were in a relationship last summer, you probably spend a good chunk of time with bae. Maybe, you even ghosted your friends a bit. Not this summer. It’s about, them, and making memories.

2. You can be spontaneous.

If someone has a last-minute ticket to something, or there are some plan changes, you can probably do them right away. You don’t have to worry about checking in with your SO.

3. You don’t have to worry about coordinating your job schedule with bae’s.

I’m free from 4 to 6 on Tuesday and you’re free from 1 to 5 on Tuesday, so maybe we could hang out at four? No, how about next Thursday?

4. You can do whatever you want.

This is your summer. If you want to stay inside and sleep until 3 o’clock, you can. If you want to eat ice cream for breakfast, you can. If you want to go for a walk every day in the park, you can. And you will not have to justify your actions to anyone.

5. You can go to the beach and not feel guilty for admiring the hotties.

Hello, volleyball players, we see you.

6. The summer is one of the best times to have a fling.

They don’t call it summer lovin’ for nothing.

7. You don’t have to worry about Skype dates and FaceTime sessions.

No more, “Sorry, I have to be home by ten so I can talk to bae.”

8. There are plenty of opportunities to meet new people, if you feel so inclined.

The weather is nice so everyone is outside. And everyone is happy and friendly because it’s summertime.

9. You can actually get started on that project you’ve been planning to do for months.

Remember that New Year’s goal you put in place? You’ve got the time to work on it now.

10. You don’t have to worry about another person’s sweat on top of yours.

Gross but true. On sweltering days, hooking up can be rather sticky.

11. You can use the opportunity to reconnect with other people.

Think about your other relationships. When was the last time you hung out with your family, cousins, sister, brother, grandma?

12. You can enjoy a nice cool bed.

Sharing a bed isn’t very romantic when it’s 100 degrees outside and the A/C isn’t working.

13. You don’t have to worry about what your SO is doing.

Just think of all of the times you’ve panicked thinking about bae with all of those girls in bikinis and mini skirts.

14. You can slack with body hair removal.

Don’t feel like shaving today? Don’t bother. You don’t have to worry about something judging you or questioning your new grooming style.

15. You can treat yo’self.

You work hard at your summer job. When you’re single, you can use that money to splurge on yourself. There’s nothing wrong with being completely selfish.

16. You don’t have to stress about doing the long distance thing.

No summer houses, camps, cottages, schools, trailers, trips, or family vacations to worry about. Just your own schedule.

What are your summer plans? Let us know in the comments!

7 Signs You’re a Clingy Girlfriend

7 Signs You’re a Clingy Girlfriend

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Have you ever done one of those quizzes to see what type of girlfriend you are? Or, are you too scared to do one because you don’t want to know the results? It’s understandable because you probably don’t want to be labelled as the stereotypical clingy girlfriend.

Even if you don’t believe quizzes are 100 percent accurate, you probably are concerned about being a clingy girlfriend because it’s pretty much the worst thing according to pop culture. Obviously, it’s not as bad as being a cheating girlfriend, but it’s toward the top of the list. It’s up there with being a stressful girlfriend or being a nagging girlfriend.

If you’re worried that you could actually be a clingy girlfriend, stop doing the internet quizzes for a second and have a look at seven signs you’re a clingy girlfriend. If you do relate to some of the signs, don’t freak out even more. It’s good to acknowledge the situation so you can do something about it.

1. You Constantly Text Your SO to Know Where/He She is

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Would you say that your texting with bae is pretty equal in terms of back and forth? Or, would you say that you’re the one who is usually texting, messaging, poking, Snapchatting, and sending any sort of message possible? That’s not a good sign. It’s worse if you send a message to see where he/she is and if you don’t get a response within five minutes, you send three more texts before calling in a panic. If that’s the case, it sounds like you need to chill and trust your SO to give him/her some *virtual* space. Image source: Instagram/emmanuel_geylang

2. You Do Not Completely Trust your Significant Other

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Answer this question honestly for me: Do you trust your SO completely? If you hesitated or didn’t say your yes with confidence that can be very telling. Second question: Has bae ever done or said anything that would warrant your lack of trust? If you can honestly answer no, consider why you have a hard time trusting bae. Do you feel self-conscious or concerned about your relationship? It could be an internal problem. And it could be making your clingy. Image source: Instagram/sharguim

3. You Constantly Troll Bae’s Social Media Feeds for Red Flags

When you’re on social media, is it to send bae adorable messages? Or, are you on social media to keep an eye on what bae is doing when he/she isn’t with you? It’s not a point of concern in theory, but it is if you spend hours doing it. It’s also not the best if you look for clues in seemingly normal pictures. If you’re analyzing every pic, it sounds like you don’t trust your SO which could lead to being clingy. Image source: Instagram/thewellco

4. You Want To Spend Every Spare Moment w/ Bae

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It’s understandable that you want to spend a lot of time with your SO. If you didn’t then people would likely wonder what you’re doing in this relationship. Even if you’re head-over-heels in love with bae, you would still want some alone time and moments when you want to see your friends and family. If you don’t, or you feel that you can’t stay away from bae, be careful. You could be on the road to clingy girlfriend. Image source: Instagram/lae.ka

5. You Follow Bae Around or Check in on Him/Her

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You’re probably saying *of course I don’t follow bae.* You might not be playing detective, but you might be doing other things. For example, do you know that bae is hanging out with friends somewhere and just happen to walk by and say hello? And does it happen pretty much every time your SO hangs out with someone other than you? Yeah, it’s not the greatest. Image source: Instagram/sarahjmclarke96

6. You Feel Very Nervous When Bae Hangs Out w/ Anyone Other Than You

Do the alarm bells start going off when bae is hanging out with someone other than you? Do you find yourself in high level panic mode until your significant other is back with you? Watch out because it’s an indicator of a clingy girlfriend. If you feel nervous or like you need to be in control of the situation, you need to look at yourself and try to figure out why. Image source: Instagram/babyygirl_xox

7. You Like to Constantly Check in on the State of your Relationship

Besides wanting to check in on bae’s whereabouts do you feel that you need to constantly talk to bae about the state of your relationship? It’s good to have the occasional chat about how your relationship is going, but note that I said *occasional.* If you want to have a deep discussion about the state of your relationship with bae on a daily basis — or even a weekly basis — it sounds like you need to chill. Image source: Instagram/juan_barrientos_torres

What relationship issues are you concerned about? Let us know in the comments!

 

7 Things to Know if You’re New to Butt Stuff

7 Things to Know if You’re New to Butt Stuff

Doing anything for the first time is intimidating. One of the best ways to make it seem less scary is to be prepared. It applies to doing a presentation in class, baking a complicated recipe, and it applies to trying butt stuff for the first time.

Butt stuff — whether we’re talking about anal fingering, fisting, anal sex, eating booty, using sex toys, or something else — is probably one of the most intimidating things out of all the sex stuff because it has a mysterious reputation, it involves back there, and it’s not talked about as much as other stuff. Here are Gurl, we’re down to talk about anything and everything so hopefully we can take some of the mystery out of booty stuff. That way you can feel more confident about it and know what to expect.

Have a look at seven things to know if you’re new to butt stuff:

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You Will Need A Lot Of Lube

This isn't a time to be cheap. If you're used to lube during other sexy stuff, get ready to use a lot more than you would for putting the P in the V. Lube up everything including the butt hole, fingers, condoms, sex toys, and anything else that is going near that butt. And don't be afraid to add more later. There's really no such thing as too much. Image source: Instagram/pr_lynn_cc

Communication Is Soooo Important

The butt hole is a sensitive area. If you thought that having vaginal sex for the first time was difficult, putting things up your butt can be more intense. That's why you need to ensure that you and bae are completely open with each other. You should feel confident in taking the lead of the situation and telling bae whether he/she is going too fast or being too hard. After all, it's your butt that is involved here. Image source: Instagram/aturnwin

Going Slow Is Key

Slow and steady wins the race. If you're in a rush, it's not the best time to try butt stuff. You need lots of time and patience. Even then you might not get a toy, finger, or penis all the way in. That's okay. Some people never do. Just go with what you feel comfortable with. And if bae is going too fast, make sure you speak up. Remember the last point. Image source: Instagram/hollycrandall

Good Hygiene Is Essential

Because you're dealing with a butt, it's paramount that you keep things clean. Having a shower or bath before you do anything never hurts. Secondly, you will want to make sure that the other person's hands are clean. And safe sex is essential. Another thing to remember is not to put anything that has been up a butt in another hole. Image source: Instagram/cocoongeneva

It Will Feel Very Different

It's hard to really describe what butt stuff is like until you've tried it. It's a bit different than everyone, but one thing is for sure, it will definitely feel different than anything else you've ever done. That includes vaginal sex. Some people like to describe it as intense, deep, or filling. Hello. Image source: Instagram/thedundeecake

You Might Feel That You Have To Go To The Bathroom

You might have heard the stories about people who have tried anal and have had to go to the bathroom in the middle of it. A lot of the stories are usually exaggerations, but there is some truth to it. It makes sense. If you're inserting anything back there, you're putting pressure on a sensitive part which can give you the impression of having to go to the bathroom. If you recently went, don't stress, you should be fine. Image source: Instagram/i.shomeinteriors_bylauren

It's Important To Try And Relax

I know, I know, it's a lot easier said than done, but try to remember it. When you're stressed and/or nervous, you will find the experience less enjoyable. What's more, you will find it more difficult to get comfortable and open up. Take a few deep breaths and know that if you don't like it or you find it too painful, you can ask bae to stop. To help you relax further, you can have a talk about what's going to go down with bae beforehand. Image source: Instagram/real_gaby_mt

Does bae want to try butt stuff? Let us know in the comments!

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8 Reasons Bae has Suddenly Started Acting Distant

8 Reasons Bae has Suddenly Started Acting Distant

Have you ever been in a relationship where you thought things were going well then all of a sudden, it seemed like bae was a different person? Was your significant other sweet, loving, and compassionate one day then quiet, serious, and distant the next?

If you’ve been in the situation, you probably freaked out and wondered what happened and where your loving SO went. It’s understandable. You might have confronted bae directly and asked if anything was going on. If you were too freaked out and didn’t want to make things weirder, you might have kept quiet, prayed things would pass, and consulted everyone you knew about what could be going on. If you’re looking for possibilities, here are eight possible reasons why bae has suddenly started acting distant.

1. Bae Is Stressed AF

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Stress can really affect a person. It can impact them on physical, emotional, and mental levels. There have likely been situations in your life where you were super stressed and it started impacting you in surprising ways. Bae could be going through some of that. Try to think about what’s going on with his/her life and whether you can pinpoint some possible triggers. If you can’t, know that they might still be there. Bae might not want to open up to you about them because he/she might not want to burden you, too. Image source: Instagram/katypadam

2. Your Significant Other Could Be Exhausted

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Being tired can completely change a person as much as being stressed. If bae is constantly on the go, he/she might be at risk of burning out. There is only so much energy a person has. When someone gets run down, it can impact so many things. It’s a problem because when people are constantly running near empty, they don’t realize how tired they are and how their lives, relationships, and health are being impacted.

3. Your SO Feels Uncomfortable About Something

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No, I don’t necessarily mean you. Maybe, your SO gained or lost some weight, had an operation, or had a person make a rude remark about themselves. It might not even be something physical he/she feels uncomfortable about. Try to think if there were any incidents between the two of you that ended up being awkward. If you cannot think of any, consider whether there were some other stressful situations bae has been in later. Your SO might have disclosed hem or he she might not.

4. Your SO Could Be Feeling Restricted

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You’ll want to consider your actions in this. Do you think bae could be acting distant because you’re being too clingy or intense? Did you suggest taking your relationship to the next level or did you do some grand romantic gesture? Even if bae seemed to like it at the time, he/she might have actually been overwhelmed and didn’t know how to react. Now that he/she has had time to process things, he/she might be feeling like this is all too much and isn’t sure what to do.

5. Your SO Is Holding A Grudge

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If you’ve been with your SO for a while you might be able to figure out whether he/she is the type of person who holds grudges or whether he/she is someone who truly forgives when he/she says it. It’s alright if you’re not sure because this could be the time that you discover what kind of person bae is. Consider when the last time you got into a fight was and whether things appeared resolved. You should also consider when you made a compromise. Either situation could be the reason for bae acting distant.

6. Bae Has An Issue And Doesn’t Feel Comfortable Confiding In You

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I know that you’re a loving, helpful person that would help bae through any situation, but there might be something going on that bae doesn’t feel 100 percent comfortable talking to you about. I’m sure you’ve been in situations where you can relate. They might have been with friends, family, or even your SO. It’s a hard place for the person to be in because they might really want advice and feedback, but feel like they cannot say something.

7. Your SO Could Be Losing Interest

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I know this is one you don’t want to hear, but I have to include it because it could be a possibility. When some people start losing interest, they don’t know what to do. Sometimes, they don’t want to break up so they start acting distant in the hopes you will break up with them. Or, they do it for a period to see if they miss you.

8. Bae Is Keeping A Secret

I don’t want the alarm bells to go off in your head just yet. It might not be anything about you and it might be anything awful. Of course those are still possibilities, but there are other options. Maybe one of bae’s relatives or friends said something and asked for it to remain a secret. If bae tells you everything, he/she might have a hard time dealing with this and not know how to react. If it’s something big or major, he/she will also have to deal with coming to terms with it.

Have you ever had a SO act distant? How did you deal? Let us know in the comments!

6 Reasons Skipping Meals is the Worst

6 Reasons Skipping Meals is the Worst

Have you ever been so busy that you don’t even want to stop and break to eat? Are you so focused that you don’t even want to take two minutes to eat a bowl or cereal or an apple? You might feel this way when you’re studying for exams or when you have eight deadlines looming over your head and a to-do list that’s a mile long.

You might think that you’re being very focused and disciplined, but you aren’t doing your body any favors. While you might think skipping eating is benefiting you, it’s likely going to cost you in the long run. Skipping meals is no bueno in any situation. It doesn’t matter whether you’re too busy, lazy, or don’t have anything good in the fridge. It’s important to eat. Yes, I’m including breakfast in that, too.

Here are six reasons why skipping meals is actually the worst.

1. You Will Have Difficulty Concentrating

If you’re someone who frequently *doesn’t have time for breakfast* then you’re probably familiar with this. How many days do you feel lightheaded and cannot focus on anything that your teacher is saying when it gets to around 11 o’clock? It’s not just because your teacher is droning on about integers. Food is brain power and when you don’t have enough — or any at all — your ability to concentrate goes way down. Eating regularly will prevent your brain from going foggy. Image source: Instagram/call_me_mrs_walker_x

2. You Will Get Hangry

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Hangry isn’t just a favorite phrase of the internet. It’s a legit thing. Seventeen reports that a person’s mood plummets along with their blood sugar and attention span when they skip meals. The body basically goes into survival mode which puts you on the edge. To prevent you from biting someone’s head off when you’re majorly angry, try to eat regularly. Image source: Instagram/seamasterhiro

3. It Can Mess Up Your Blood Pressure

You might think that blood pressure is something only your parents and grandparents have to worry about, but skipping meals can throw your blood pressure out of whack. When you don’t eat, it can put a strain on all sorts of body functions, including blood pressure. High blood pressure isn’t good because if it gets very high, it can weaken the blood vessels, and in extreme cases cause blood clots and even strokes. I’m not saying you’re going to have a stroke if you skip breakfast, but know that regularly skipping meals can impact blood pressure and having high blood pressure for a long period of time can have a negative impact. Image source: Instagram/mskathy0724

4. Your Risk Of Some Diseases Could Increase

I bet I have your attention now, right? According to Prevention, one study found that those who skipped breakfast regularly had a 20 percent increased risk of developing type 2 diabetes. The issue is that our bodies fast at night when we sleep. If we don’t *break the fast* in the morning, it strains out bodies and can throw our levels out of whack. Image source: Instagram/sandie_march.ceramique

5. It Makes You More Likely To Overeat

Some people who are dieting might consider skipping meals. First of all, it’s not a healthy way to eat. You should be focused on choosing wholesome foods that nourish your body and not be concerned about restrictions. Secondly, skipping meals makes you much more likely to overeat later — and you normally end up eating the wrong stuff. The thing is that when you get beyond hungry, it’s likely you will start scoffing down as much food as possible. And you’ll probably keep eating even after you’re already full. Image source: Instagram/confetti.potsandpans

6. It Makes You Tired

This is why you shouldn’t consider skipping meals, especially if you have things to do. Food is fuel and what happens when things don’t have fuel? They burn out. So, keep feeding your body to keep yourself energized. Instead of always reaching for coffee when you feel tired, try having something nourishing to eat. You’ll likely feel revived and you won’t have to deal with the caffeine crash later. Image source: Instagram/bri_theedgelord

Do you often skip meals? Let us know in the comments!

 

What to Do if The Person You’re Dating Doesn’t Want to Label your Relationship?

What to Do if The Person You’re Dating Doesn’t Want to Label your Relationship?

When you’re in a new relationship, everything can seem pretty perfect. There’s likely major chemistry and you’re getting to know a person and discover all of their amazing qualities. Then you hit a bump in the road and realize your relationship isn’t as “perfect” as you thought it was. One big bump would be when the person you’re dating has qualms about defining what you have as a “relationship.” If you’re dating someone who isn’t into the idea of labeling what you’ve got and you’re not sure about it, here are some things to consider.

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Why wouldn’t someone want to label our relationship?

There are a lot of possibilities. Given that this is a fairly new relationship, you might not know the person well enough to deduce some of them, unless you knew bae from before or you asked. Some things to consider are how long you’ve been dating and the type of relationships bae has had in the past, if any.

Perhaps bae still thinks the relationship is too new to put labels on it and wants to see how things go. Maybe bae is just against the idea of labels in general and prefers to just do his/her own thing and go with the feelings you have rather than worrying about terms, rings, and all of that stuff. Maybe this is one of bae’s first relationships so he/she considers it a really big step to put a label on things and isn’t quite ready. Similarly, it could be that bae got burned in a relationship before and doesn’t want that to happen again.

Does that mean I’m just a booty call?

Not necessarily. You need to consider how you and bae interact to deduce whether you’re a booty call or a side chick. Do you and bae go out on dates? Do you talk and text each other regularly? Or, does it seem like bae disappears for days and only calls you at night to hook up? If it’s more like the second option, you might just be a booty call.

Could it mean that bae doesn’t care enough about me?

That might not be the case. I told you about the possibilities in the first question. It could actually be that bae cares about you very, very much and those feelings freak him/her out a bit and he/she doesn’t know what to do. Think about bae’s actions when you’re together. Is he/she kind, attentive, loving? Actions will reveal a lot even if bae hasn’t come out and expressed his/her undying love.

What should I do? Labeling is important to me.

Instead of speculating about why bae doesn’t want to label your *relationship,* you should ask bae about it. You can probably go on enjoying yourself with bae, but there will come to a point where you will need to ask. Given that you’re already thinking about it here, it will likely be sooner rather than later.

Explain to bae why having a label on your relationship is important to you. Be honest. If you’re worried about bae dating other people because you don’t have a certain label on your relationship, say it. This is your time to make bae see your point of view and to try and understand the struggle you’re having.

What if bae things I’m being clingy?

If you explain your reasons why, bae should respect your opinions, if he/she cares for you. If he/she does think it’s too needy to label a relationship then it sounds like you’re after different things. Bae might be looking for more casual hookups while you’re after a committed relationship. One of you could change depending on the feelings, but it’s likely that it will lead to regret, especially in your case.

Does that mean we should break up if we cannot agree on labeling?

It’s a tough call. It depends on how different your views are and whether you can come up with a compromise about labeling that leaves you both satisfied. For example, would you be happy if bae says that you two are exclusive but he/she doesn’t use the boyfriend/girlfriend label?

Another point: The both of you might seem happy with the way your relationship is now but things could change as you get to know each other. Know that if you continue in a relationship, it’s perfectly fine to go back to your conversation about labeling, especially if there are big things being discussed in your relationship like having sex, going to prom, going to different colleges, etc.

Do you label all of your relationships? Let us know in the comments!

 

8 Reasons Your Significant Other has Suddenly Started Acting Distant

8 Reasons Your Significant Other has Suddenly Started Acting Distant

Have you ever been in a relationship where you thought things were going well then all of a sudden, it seemed like bae was a different person? Was your significant other sweet, loving, and compassionate one day then quiet, serious, and distant the next?

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If you’ve been in the situation, you probably freaked out and wondered what happened and where your loving SO went. It’s understandable. You might have confronted bae directly and asked if anything was going on. If you were too freaked out and didn’t want to make things weirder, you might have kept quiet, prayed things would pass, and consulted everyone you knew about what could be going on. If you’re looking for possibilities, here are eight possible reasons why bae has suddenly started acting distant.

1. Bae Is Stressed AF

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Stress can really affect a person. It can impact them on physical, emotional, and mental levels. There have likely been situations in your life where you were super stressed and it started impacting you in surprising ways. Bae could be going through some of that. Try to think about what’s going on with his/her life and whether you can pinpoint some possible triggers. If you can’t, know that they might still be there. Bae might not want to open up to you about them because he/she might not want to burden you, too.

2. Your Significant Other Could Be Exhausted

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Being tired can completely change a person as much as being stressed. If bae is constantly on the go, he/she might be at risk of burning out. There is only so much energy a person has. When someone gets run down, it can impact so many things. It’s a problem because when people are constantly running near empty, they don’t realize how tired they are and how their lives, relationships, and health are being impacted.

3. Your SO Feels Uncomfortable About Something

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No, I don’t necessarily mean you. Maybe, your SO gained or lost some weight, had an operation, or had a person make a rude remark about themselves. It might not even be something physical he/she feels uncomfortable about. Try to think if there were any incidents between the two of you that ended up being awkward. If you cannot think of any, consider whether there were some other stressful situations bae has been in later. Your SO might have disclosed hem or he she might not.

4. Your SO Could Be Feeling Restricted

restricted

You’ll want to consider your actions in this. Do you think bae could be acting distant because you’re being too clingy or intense? Did you suggest taking your relationship to the next level or did you do some grand romantic gesture? Even if bae seemed to like it at the time, he/she might have actually been overwhelmed and didn’t know how to react. Now that he/she has had time to process things, he/she might be feeling like this is all too much and isn’t sure what to do.

5. Your SO Is Holding A Grudge

fighting couple

If you’ve been with your SO for a while you might be able to figure out whether he/she is the type of person who holds grudges or whether he/she is someone who truly forgives when he/she says it. It’s alright if you’re not sure because this could be the time that you discover what kind of person bae is. Consider when the last time you got into a fight was and whether things appeared resolved. You should also consider when you made a compromise. Either situation could be the reason for bae acting distant.

6. Bae Has An Issue And Doesn’t Feel Comfortable Confiding In You

secret

I know that you’re a loving, helpful person that would help bae through any situation, but there might be something going on that bae doesn’t feel 100 percent comfortable talking to you about. I’m sure you’ve been in situations where you can relate. They might have been with friends, family, or even your SO. It’s a hard place for the person to be in because they might really want advice and feedback, but feel like they cannot say something.

7. Your SO Could Be Losing Interest

losing interest

I know this is one you don’t want to hear, but I have to include it because it could be a possibility. When some people start losing interest, they don’t know what to do. Sometimes, they don’t want to break up so they start acting distant in the hopes you will break up with them. Or, they do it for a period to see if they miss you.

8. Bae Is Keeping A Secret

keeping a secret

I don’t want the alarm bells to go off in your head just yet. It might not be anything about you and it might be anything awful. Of course those are still possibilities, but there are other options. Maybe one of bae’s relatives or friends said something and asked for it to remain a secret. If bae tells you everything, he/she might have a hard time dealing with this and not know how to react. If it’s something big or major, he/she will also have to deal with coming to terms with it.

Have you ever had a SO act distant? How did you deal? Let us know in the comments!

 

15 Reasons Group Dates are the Worst

15 Reasons Group Dates are the Worst

If you’ve just starting dating someone, you might think that going on a group date is a good idea. In theory, it seems pretty good. You can get to know the other person better but in a more relaxed atmosphere. Plus, you’ll have your friends there for moral support or in case things get awkward and you don’t know how to carry the conversation.

Those are points that make group dates good options, but group dates have the potential to go very wrong. The key thing is choosing a couple(s) who you think would be a good match for you and your date. Sometimes, the people who you think are the right fit can turn out to be the worst group daters. Here are 15 reasons why group dates can actually be the worst.

1. The other couple(s) has no sense of time or respect for you waiting.

Sorry, we had an emergency situation. *Wink, wink, nudge, nudge*

2. You make the rookie mistake of not meeting your date beforehand.

Just standing here among people kissing all by myself. Not awkward at all.

3. Just coordinating it can be a nightmare.

You’re free on Tuesday, Thursday, and Friday, but we’re free Monday, Wednesday, Saturday. Can you do 5:00 PM on Sunday? What about 5:15 PM? Why don’t you like that time?

4. Your date becomes more interested in your friend than you.

Well, that’s one way to find out that he/she is actually a jerk.

5. The other couple will try to make things very competitive.

We’ve been to the movies eight times, what about you? We had our first kiss on our first date, can you say the same? We’re going hiking next weekend. What do you mean you’ve never considered going hiking together?

6. You could end up staring at the other couple getting hot and heavy.

You know the etiquette rules about keeping your make out sessions in check, but clearly they don’t. Get a room!

7. It becomes clear the other couple aren’t into each other and you have to pick up the pieces.

We weren’t expecting to be referees when we organized this date…

8. Your friend’s date turns out to be the most annoying person on the planet.

Him? Where did she find this guy? She said he was cool and she has good taste.

9. Someone will make things super awkward about the bill.

There are so many ways it can get awkward quickly from someone ordering things you don’t want “for the table,” to the person who pretends there is no bill, to the person who goes to the bathroom then leaves so they don’t have to pay. It happens.

10. It becomes a bromance.

Instead of you and your date getting to know each other people, the boys end up connecting and spend the entire time only focused on each other. Meanwhile, you and your friend could disappear and they wouldn’t even notice.

11. When you give your date a quick kiss, everybody starts cheering.

That definitely killed the mood.

12. There ends up being a big group argument despite sticking to pleasant and safe conversation topics.

We avoided politics yet we’ve managed to get into a fight about The Bachelor?!

13. Someone brings up an embarrassing story about you that you didn’t want your date to ever know.

Note to self: Never inviting them on a group date again.

14. Someone starts playing footsie with you under the table during a dinner date, and you’re pretty sure it’s not your date.

Who plays footsie anyways?

15. After having an awkward time, one of the couples suggest getting together every week.

Dude, how are we going to get out of this now that we’ve done it once? *Face palm*

Have you ever been on a group date? Let us know in the comments!

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16 of The Cutest Instagram Posts about Pride

16 of The Cutest Instagram Posts about Pride

Happy Pride, everybody! I hope you’re enjoying the month so far. There are so many ways to celebrate from the big pride parades to donning your most festive rainbow beauty looks to watching films to organizing a LGBTQ+ pride party of your own.

One of the simplest ways people can show their support and love is by sharing things online. Thanks to the internet, social media, and the fact we pretty much always have our phones in our hands, posting something about LGBTQ+ pride for all to see couldn’t be easier. Once you’ve posted your photo, don’t forget to take a look at what everyone else is posting. If you’re in need of some ideas, you can also check them out before hand to get inspiration.

Here are 16 of the cutest Instagram posts about pride that you need to see right now.

1. That dog though.

Pride dog #summer #love #pride

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How did he get up there?

2. Beauty

Soy todo lo que soy porque tú eres todo lo que quiero. 🌻 . . . . . . . . . . . . #calle13 #muerteenhawaii #sanjuandegaztelugatxe #paisvasco #landscape #kiss #girls #lgbt #june #pride #girlfriends #love #iamstupid

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#CouplesGoals

3. Purrrrrfect

Purride 😻😍🤗🙌🏼🌈 it’s almost pride month!! #purride#rainbowpride#lgbtpride#pansexual#pansexualgirl#pansexualpride#lesbian#gay#transgender#ftm#mtf#bisexual#queer#asexual#lgbtcommunity#almostpridemonth#rainbowlove#pridetshirt#supportlgbt

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Who else needs this shirt?

4. Strike a pose.

😱😱😱😱💋 Follow @lgbtshirtusa for more 🏳️‍🌈

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#LoveisLove

5. When you combine doughnuts and pride.

This funny donut forget that you are human human t shirt available for men, women and kid.🌈 See more at link in my @lgbtshirtusa bio.

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Great sweatshirt. Great message.

6. All the feelings.

And in the middle of my chaos, there was you ❤ #iloveyou #girlswhokissgirls #lgbt #lesbianlove #cutie #pridecouple #imlucky

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My heart.

7. Just chilling.

Enjoying the simple times.🍃 . . . #fbf #friday #happyfriday #friyay #couple #love #picnic #cuddles #loveislove #lovewins #lgbt #lgbtq #gay #pride

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Just the two of us.

8. Don’t forget about your pets.

Finn the Labrador puppy showing his support for #pride because he loves EVERYBODY no matter who or what they love! Also he is ready for yoga with his matching collar & mat sling…we are just finishing up our application for @prairielovefestival this fall! #prairielove #pridelove #puppylove #allthelove #labradorretriever #finn #yoga #yogi #yogamat #pride #rainbow #support #LGBT #community #health #fitness #love @prairiegirlyogashop

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Love the collar, Finn.

9. In warm weather and in cold weather.

#winter2016#sopot#sopotmolo#justus#love#loveislove🌈#lesbiancouple#lesbians#pridecouple#pridecouple#rainbowlove# polishcouple#polishlebians

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So sweet.

10. A new pride T-shirt for ya.

🏳️‍🌈 LGBTQ Pride Month 🏳️‍🌈 If you would like to find a T-shirt for the proud month, please see the link in my bio.🌈

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True dat.

11. An unexpected booth at pride.

#flashbackfriday to last year @polkadogbakery!! Happy Pride Month! ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 ••• #rescuedog #treatyoself #doglover #pride #dogsofinstagram #puppylove #terrier #dogs #happydog #dogstagram #cutedogs #dogsofboston #doglovers #dogsofig #boston #dog #cutedog #muttsofinstagram #doglove #bostondogs #mutt #dogsofinsta #doggy #petsofinstagram #adoptdontshop #mydog #bestdogever #rescuedogsofinstagram #photobooth

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…But a welcome one.

12. Sealed with a kiss.

#oneofthefirst#lesbiaslove#pride#pridelove#pridecouple#twogirls#twogirlsinlove#2016

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*Muah*

13. Welcome

Love that thia little Pride sign is on its way to a new home in California! #thishousehaspride #pridesign #gaypride2016 #gaypride #loveislove #lovewins #hippiepride #wepaintsigns #singletonpaintssigns

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Great message and an adorable design.

14. The little details.

Two men in the air. DC Pride bound. #gay #legs #gaymen #hairylegs #fur #furrymen #gaylove #dcpride #pride #gaypride #furrylove #hairylove #menfur #flying #americanairlines

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On their way.

15. A new addition to the family.

2 years ago, we shared in the tremendous grief these men experienced when they lost their first born at birth. Yesterday, our hearts were filled with joy as our Director, Carey, witnessed the birth of their baby girl, and captured this sweet moment of the new family. We are so grateful to be part of this beautiful family’s story. Lots of love from AFS to baby Shay and her daddies, @kfir_b and @yanivwaizman . ❤ #surrogacyislove #allfamilies #twodads #pride #lovewins

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Who is chopping opinions around here?

16. Happy smiles

San Francisco 🌉

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Awwwwww.

How are you celebrating Pride 2018? Let us know in the comments!

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12 Signs You’re Dating a “Player”

12 Signs You’re Dating a “Player”

There’s something irresistible about him. And yet;  you can’t help the feeling that  it’s too good to be true. Is it? Here are 12 tell-tale signs:

 

 

 

 

 

1. YOU’VE NEVER MET HIS FRIENDS

He doesn’t have to put on a show in front of his friends.

They’re comfortable. So comfortable, his friends might accidentally slip up while you’re around and mention how “your guy” ditched them for Jessica last Saturday.

Hmm.. who’s Jessica?

2. PET NAMES

He said your name a lot at first. After all, psychological studies prove it’s endearing and flattering to hear your own name; thus, building rapport.

However, after the initial flirting, he’s quick to call you “baby, gorgeous, babe, etc.”

Interchangeable names prevent mix-ups. It happens when you’re girl number six.

3. HE’S ALWAYS BUSY

He’s not the best texter. He goes off the grid often. It’s because he has to split his time between the women he’s juggling. Thus, creating an unpredictable schedule.

Be alert if he hits you up for spontaneous dates. You could be a backup when his original plans fall through

4. YOU‘VE NEVER SEEN HIS PHONE

Does he angle his phone away from you when he texts? Is his phone always face down? Does he freak out when you reach past it to grab something?

These are a red flags.

5. HE‘S ALWAYS FRESH

swag

Being freshly showered and smelling like cologne is attractive. He wants you to think he’s attractive. Look out for the ones who always seem ready.

6. HE HAS A NICE CAR

Nissan Nismo

If he has the funds, he’ll splurge on a nice car.

It’s a “chick magnet.” Flashy cars and trucks are a trademark purchase of a player.

7. HE‘S SUPER TOUCHY

He touches you when you laugh. He places his hand on your back to walk past you (when you aren’t even in the way.) He’s the kind of guy who’s always in your bubble before getting to know you.

He’s pushing your physical boundaries. It gives him a head start towards touching something else. Fortunately, it’s easy to recognize if he’s flirting with only you or if it’s his personality. It’s a habit that he can’t turn off. If he does it to other girls when he thinks you aren’t looking, there’s your sign.

8. HE‘S OVERCONFIDENT

He’s comfortable speaking with any girl. He’s had plenty of practice. Chances are he’s also arrogant and self-centered.

To quote KISS bassist, Gene Simmons, who claims he cheated on his long-term girlfriend with 4800 women, “I’m an incredibly powerful and attractive man.”

9. HE TAKES CRITICISM TO HEART

side eye

If you poke fun at misspoken statements or personality quirks, he won’t be into your sarcastic sense of humor. It’s a blow to his ego.

He may even retaliate with rude jokes every now and then. Off-handed comments help him test his level of control. Once he gains control, it’s easier to manipulate you into bed.

10. HE SEEMS TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE

If he says all the right things, he might be tuning into what he thinks you want to hear; and adjusting accordingly.

Our Instincts and intuition pick up on subtleties and file them away in the back of our mind. The problem is we convince ourselves it’s all in our head; especially when we want to believe it.

11. ONE-SIDED CONVERSATIONS

Conversations are completely focused on you or him.

Speaking about yourself makes you comfortable enough to let your guard down. It also helps him adjust his spiels to match your preferences. He speaks about himself to feed his ego.

Whomever the subject of conversation, he will eventually incorporate sexual topics regularly (Hint, hint ..wink, wink.)

12. HISTORY

flirting

The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior.

If he has a reputation for being a womanizer, he’s not likely to change now.

17 Cute Prom Pose Ideas You Need To Try For Your Photos

17 Cute Prom Pose Ideas You Need To Try For Your Photos

I don’t want to put any extra pressure on you, but your prom photos are something that you will probably have for a long time. So, you want to make sure you’re happy with them.

You are likely concerned about your dress, hair, and makeup. Those are obviously all key elements to a *killer lewk,* but don’t forget that it’s your pose in your photos that can make or break the look. You might think that planning your pose beforehand would be cheesy. I can definitely see where you’re coming from, but it’s better to have a planned pose than to stand in front of the camera awkwardly because you don’t know what you’re going to do. What’s even worse is having your mom direct you and bae on how to pose as your dad tries to take a photo #Awkward.

To ensure that you get some fun, original, and cute prom photos you will look back on and smile, scroll down to see 17 cute prom pose ideas you can try for your photos.

1. Taaaaa-daaaaaaa

This is fun, informal, and so cute.

2. James Bond/Charlie’s Angels

Prom 2018 ❤️💋 #prompose #kingmanaz #prom @chelseagirl628 @daniellemarievedder

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It’s a classic that never goes out of style.

3. The Dip


 

Awwwwwwwww…The look of love.

4. The Car Pose


You don’t have to be wearing a money suit to copy this pose. You also don’t need a pickup truck. Pretty much any car will work.

5. Swept Away


Show off bae’s muscles and your dress.

6. Over The Shoulder


Show off the back of your dress. Extra points if you take the photo on a balcony and kick your leg up.

7. In The Car


A fun way to show off your dress and a cool ride.

8. In A Line


You can adapt this to include anyone: Friends, family, cousins, etc.

9. Sitting On The Stairs


This is so cute and not like some of those stiff, formal poses.

10. The Kiss


All the feels.

11. Full Skirt


If you’ve got a full skirt, show it off. Just make sure the ground is clean.

12. The Kick


If your dress has a slit, it’s made for this pose.

13. The Leg Up


Just as cute as the kiss and dip.

14. The Hug From Behind

This is adorable with moms, besties, baes, anyone.

15. The Cha-Cha Line

Warning: If you try this pose, you will want to start dancing.

16. The Superman

Just make sure everyone has a good grip and your dress stays decent.

17. On the Step

You can feel the love.

What prom pose idea was your favorite? Let us know in the comments!

How Do I Know If My Relationship Is Moving Too Fast?

How Do I Know If My Relationship Is Moving Too Fast?

When you’re in a relationship, it’s natural that you want to make sure things are progressing in the way they’re *supposed* to. The trouble is what you’re *supposed* to be doing can be interpreted differently by you, bae, your friends, family, social media, and about 18,358 other places.

Sometimes, you might think that you and bae aren’t hitting big milestones that you should have by now. Maybe you’re on the opposite end of the spectrum and are concerned that things are moving too quickly. If you’re nodding your head to the second option, here are some things to consider.

I’m worried my relationship is moving too fast. How do I know bae and I are going at the right pace?

From the sounds of it, you might be hung up on some sort of rules about how relationships are supposed to progress. Maybe, you’re going off your friends’ relationships, relationships from TV, or advice from friends and family. It really isn’t so much a question of whether your relationship is moving too fast, but if you think it’s moving too fast for you and bae. It’s a slight difference but can totally change things.

It’s hard not to compare my relationship to others and see where they’re at … Guidelines are helpful.

I get it. We can sometimes feel insecure about our relationships even if we’re in an amazing, loving, caring relationship. That’s why we look to others as a sort of checkpoint to see how we compare. As humans, we’re competitive creatures who compare ourselves by nature, but it really doesn’t help. It won’t help with your relationship and comparing won’t help in other aspects of life.

The thing is that all relationships are unique and they all go at their own pace. It’s up to you to decide what you’re comfortable with and try and stick with that. Secondly, you have to consider whether you’re moving at pace that’s comfortable for your SO and the two of your together.

But, aren’t there guidelines? For example, you don’t want to say “I love you” too early, right?

I said it before and I’ll say it again: Everyone is different. If you’re unsure if something is right, try to block out all of the white noise around you and consider how you feel in your heart. If you feel that something is the right time for you and your SO, what have you go to lose? What’s the worst that could happen in saying it? If you’re in a good relationship, you should feel comfortable expressing your feelings and being honest with bae.

What if I do something and bae gets totally freaked out?

I have another question for you? What if you do or say something and your SO is totally into it? I doubt you’re a mind reader or a predictor of the future, so you don’t know 100 percent how something will go down unless you try it. Keeping in mind what I said about following your heart and decide whether you want to say something.

If bae does get freaked out and you’re in a good relationship, you should be able to talk through the situation and come to a better understanding about your relationship and how it’s progressing. If things do go sour after you express your feelings, at least you can say you were honest, stayed true to yourself, and let bae know how you truly felt.

What if I think my SO is making things progress too quickly?

Honesty is the best policy in 99.9999 percent of relationship situations and that applies here. If you think that bae is moving too fast in any sort of situation whether it’s emotional, physical, or some other thing, do not stay quiet. It’s important that you communicate and let bae know how you feel. Know that you shouldn’t be ashamed in doing so. Most importantly, your significant other should consider how you feel and adapt so you will be comfortable at the pace of your relationship. You should never feel pressured into something in your relationship if you’re not ready. Stand your ground.

What do you do if you think your relationship is getting too serious too fast? Let us know in the comments!

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The One Thing Mindy Kaling Does to Boost Her Confidence Might Surprise You

The One Thing Mindy Kaling Does to Boost Her Confidence Might Surprise You

One thing we love about Mindy Kaling's TV medical alter ego is Dr. Lahiri's bottomless cup of self-confidence. The actress, though, is more like the rest of us and has bouts of insecurity too. We asked Mindy how she pumps herself up in those moments when she finds her confidence waning, and her answer was simple: running!

She told POPSUGAR, "I love exercise, but not for weight-loss reasons (I eat far too much for working out to make a dent in my weight!). I do it because I love the endorphins I get once I work out. So I try to get an endorphin rush before something I'm nervous about by going for a run." She's definitely onto something. Aside from getting an endorphin-induced runner's high, running is a great way to expend excess energy, especially the negative kind. Plus, working out can help fight stress-induced insomnia. It's no surprise that she told us that going for a long jog is her favorite workout, but she keeps it interesting in a very Mindy way: she pretends she's a Nazi hunter.

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Here’s How to Actually Clean Sex Toys

Here’s How to Actually Clean Sex Toys

Finding the right sex toy can take some time when you’re buying one for the first time, whether you’re looking for some *extra stimulation* during a masturbation session or looking for something to spice up your hookups with bae. Once you decide on your sex toy, you will probably be eager to discover the best ways to use it. What you might not be aware of — or what you might forget because you’re distracted — is that you can need to clean your sex toys. And you need to keep cleaning them. If you’re worried about ruining your sex toys when cleaning them, listen up.

How do I clean sex toys? I threw away the box and never bothered to read anything on it…

Don’t worry, it’s not that complicated. What you need to know is that it will vary depending on the toy(s) in question. If you have anything with electronics/batteries/motors/whatever like, a vibrator, you do not want to be submerging it or running it under water. That also applies when the toy is shut off. It can majorly mess up the toy and put you at risk of a shock. (It’s also why you don’t want to be masturbating in water with the toys.) To clean these types of toys, you can wipe them down with a wet rag and soap or you could use a cloth with some rubbing alcohol.

If you’re using a toy made out of wood, follow the instructions above.

If the toy doesn’t have any motorized or electronic parts, you should be fine with submerging it in water and giving it a bath with some soap.

Some people suggest that if you have toys made out of glass, Pyrex, or pure silicone to stick them in boiling water for a few minutes.

Do I need to use one of those fancy sex toy cleansers?

It depends. If you find a sex toy cleaner that works with the type of toy you have, there’s no harm in trying it out. Some will likely prefer to stick with soap and water as it’s cheaper, you don’t have to buy anything specific, and it’s likely something that you always have.

How often should I clean them?

You should clean your sex toys on the regular and by that I mean after ever use. Yes, really. It really doesn’t require that much effort. Before you complain, think about it this way: You spent good money on those toys so you probably want to keep them in top shape for as long as possible. What’s more, you don’t want any bacteria growing on them. Ick.

Are there toys that cannot be cleaned?

The vast majority of sex toys will be accounted for in the answer to the first question. But, be aware that there are toys made out of porous materials that won’t ever be completely clean. Porous materials are things like hard plastic and they can still contain bacteria even after using soap and water on them. If you are using these types of toys with a partner, it’s recommended that you use condoms.

Is it really bad if I forget to clean a toy sometimes or I do it later?

It’s ideal if you clean the toy after you used it, especially if it’s something porous. Of course I get it might not be the sexiest thing to break away from spooning to clean a toy. But, try to do it ASAP so you don’t forget.

What about drying toys?

Before putting your toys away or *putting them to use,* you should make sure that they’re completely dry. Using a paper towel to dry toys is often a better option that your bathroom towel, especially as your bathroom towel can harbor a surprising amount of bacteria. Also, think about storage. Some sex toys come with bags or cases. Don’t throw them out; use them. They protect toys and keep them clean from bacteria and dust.

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14 Awkward First Kiss Stories From Reddit

14 Awkward First Kiss Stories From Reddit

The majority of people, from ourselves to the media to movies, are guilty about building up first kisses to be a really big deal. First kisses are definitely a milestone because they’re the first time you’re locking lips. But, that doesn’t guarantee that things are going to all fireworks and butterflies. First kisses can sometimes be slobbery, awkward, and, erm, garlicky. Think about it: You’re swapping spit with another person for the first time who has a nose, lips, and teeth. You’re nervous, they’re nervous. You want to see what you’re doing but you don’t want your eyes wide open. No wonder things can go wrong.

If you had a first kiss that didn’t go to plan, no sweat. You might feel ashamed about things, but you shouldn’t. Everyone has awkward kisses. Nay, everyone has terrible kisses. And everyone has them at different moments. If you want to hear about some of the people who had embarrassing first kisses, you’ve come to the right spot.

Have a look at 14 awkward first kiss stories that will make you cringe. If you’ve had your first kiss, hopefully they’ll make you feel better about yours. And if you haven’t had your first kiss, try not to stress. Even if you first one doesn’t go to plan, you’ll likely have countless more opportunities to practice and have a *magical* moment.

1. What do you do about the ending?

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Never forget your manners.

2. Like a bird, like a bird.

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Even if you don’t see the visual, you can understand the awkwardness.

3. Going in, but missing the main target.

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Props to him for trying again.

4. Taking care of business.

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The fact the appointment was at the dentist makes it even more awkward.

5. Weak in the knees.

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Gah.

6. When you cannot live down your kiss.

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Come on, guys.

7. Yummy?

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See, there will always be improvement.

8. Not what you were expecting.

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Omg.

9. Creepy, unsanitary, but kind of adorable.

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Any older and it wouldn’t fly.

10. When you miss the bullseye…

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Too much pressure.

11. Freakouts happen.

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Props for being honest.

12. If there’s blood, it’s gonna be bad.

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3/10 so not a complete fail.

13. When you try not to be creepy, but still end up being creepy.

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Not even a really epic kiss could have saved things.

14. When you decide to get romantic at work.

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Going to have to hold off on smooches for a while.

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6 Creepy Things You Shouldn’t Do When You Have A Crush

6 Creepy Things You Shouldn’t Do When You Have A Crush

When it comes to having a crush, the last thing you want to do is come across as creepy. Being awkward or clumsy are legit better than coming across as creepy. If we’re being real here, if your crush finds you a bit creepy, there’s really no way to fully recover from it.

I get that you’re interested in your crush, you have a lot of emotions, and you’re trying to get your crush to notice you even though it seems like he/she thinks your invisible. That can sometimes lead to more extreme measures and a bit of desperation, but be careful. You definitely don’t want to make it look like you’re stalking your crush or that you’re coming on too strong.

If you want to avoid coming off as creepy around your crush, avoid these six things. And remember that if you have to debate about whether something is creepy, it is.

Go By Your Crush’s Place Just To See What He/She Is Doing

Let’s stick to the rule that unless we have to be in the neighborhood for a legitimate reason, it’s best to avoid hanging around or *passing by* your crush’s house. It’s one step away from hanging out in a tree with binoculars. Besides, what’s the point of it? It’s very unlikely your crush will be outside and if he/she is, you cannot really just stare from the sidewalk. And if you know your crush and he/she asks what you’re doing, what are you going to say? Image source: Instagram/gpraf

Continuously Stare At Your Crush Without Breaking Eye Contact

Just writing that made me feel a bit creepy and hopefully it made you see how awkward it can be. I get that your crush is dreamy and gazing at his/her beauty might put you in a trance, but try not to get sucked in. Humans often sense when people are looking at them and you don’t want your crush to catch you in the middle of a daze where you mouth is open, your eyes are glazed over, and you’re not looking away. #Awkward Image source: Instagram/kolakowska.agata

Bring Up Random Things Your Crush Posted On Social Media From Weeks Ago

Social media is great because you can find out more about your crush. The key thing is that if you’re creeping your crush’s profiles that you don’t make it obvious. Imagine if you were having a conversation with someone and they started bringing up things you wrote or posted on social media from three weeks ago that you don’t even remember. You’d probably be a bit freaked out, right? Image source: Instagram/annalewismusic

Show Up At All The Events That Your Crush Is Going To Be At

I know that you probably want to be around your crush as much as possible, but it needs to be within reason. I’m sure you can find out places your crush is going to be through friends, social media, or school, but showing up at all of them just so you can see your crush’s beautiful face can majorly backfire, especially if you’re showing up at events that you weren’t invited to or don’t have any interest in. It’s one thing to go to a party where you know people, but it’s another to go to an event just to stare at your crush and not talk to anyone. When you do it enough times, your crush and other people will likely catch on. Image source: Instagram/cassandra__dream

Become Possessive Of Your Crush

I know that you might have some strong feelings for your crush, but I want to make it clear that your crush is not attached to you. You do not own him/her nor do you control him/her. And a relationship won’t even change that. Therefore, be careful that you don’t act like you do. Your crush can talk to whoever he/she wants and hang out with anyone. Do not become the whiny person who complains to their crush about why they’re hanging out with so-and-so and not you. Image source: Instagram/steffiiffi_xx1996

Bombard Your Crush With Texts

It’s great that you and your crush are close enough that you text back and forth. But, texting a crush is a bit of science and sending the wrong messages can backfire in a few different ways. You also need to be careful about the frequency of your messages. Sending a regular stream of messages asking your crush where’s he/she what, what’s he/she doing, when he/she is going to be back, and who he/she is hanging out with, is a little too intense. TBT, it’s not really your business. Image source: Instagram/aliciaaragon73

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6 Things That Can Cause a Yeast Infection

6 Things That Can Cause a Yeast Infection

Staying healthy is key. Being healthy encompasses a lot of things including physical health, emotional health, and mental health. It’s important to look after each aspect and their specific categories which leads me to vaginal health.

You might find yourself worrying about the health of your vagina more than other areas what with irregular periods, irritating PMS symptoms, random discharge, strange odors, and more. Let’s not forget about yeast infections. If you find that you keep getting yeast infections and you’re wondering what the deal is, you will want to consider your lifestyle habits as much as treating the cause. There are some surprising things that can lead to yeast infections. Knowing about them could help prevent future trouble down below. Here are six things that can cause a yeast infection

1. Wearing The Wrong Kind Of Underwear

You know that cute lacy thong that you’re wearing? Sorry to say, but that could be the reason why you could be getting yeast infections. Underwear that’s too tight and not breathable can mess up your vag’s bacteria resulting in a yeast infection. So, make sure you’re wearing underwear that fits. Secondly, choose underwear in breathable materials like cotton as opposed to polyester. Image source: Instagram/nathalie.rose.45

2. Using Scented Body Products

Your vagina is a delicate thing and even beauty products that are meant for your body can mess up your vagina. Scented body products, including body washes and creams, can lead to yeast infections. Not to mention that they can sometimes cause irritation and throw off your vagina’s pH balance. To stay on the safe side, only use things that are specifically meant for down there. At the very least, avoid strong products with fragrance, dyes, or medicated ingredients like acne body washes. Image source: Instagram/ashbhat182018

3. Taking Certain Antibiotics

I know this sounds odd. You would think that if you’re taking antibiotics, it would help keep you healthy on all fronts. Not so. Web MD points out that broad spectrum antibiotics can kill bad bacteria and good bacteria, which your vagina has. This can lead to — yup, you guessed it — a yeast infection. FYI: If you’re on tetracycline watch out for yeast infections. Image source: Instagram/sanrioarcadia

4. Wearing Tight Clothes

This goes along with wearing the wrong underwear. If clothing is tight and made out of non-breathable fabrics, you’re creating an environment for bacteria to grow in your vag. Hello, yeast infection. Think about your skinny jeans, tight leggings, and workout clothes. You don’t have to give them up completely, but some subtle changes can make all the difference. You could try alternating skinny jeans with skirts. Also, make sure you switch out of your gym clothes once you get your fitness on. And avoid going commando in the styles. Image source: Instagram/davay.hvastaysa

5. Not Changing Your Tampon Often Enough

There are many reasons why you want to change your tampons regularly. It prevents leakage, reduces your chance of toxic shock syndrome, and also makes it less likely to get yeast infections. If you leave in a tampon for too long, it basically creates a moist environment for bacteria to thrive which leads to yeast infections. You should also change pads regularly for the same reason. Image source: Instagram/tinyhausmakes

6. Wearing Underwear To Bed

We’ve already discussed how wearing the wrong underwear is no bueno for your vag. It’s also not good to wear your underwear to bed every single night. Why? You vagina needs to breathe. If you do wear underwear to bed, Prevention suggests going commando about twice a week to let your vagina get some fresh air. Image source: Instagram/susannankoti

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15 Whisper Confessions about Periods Being the Worst

15 Whisper Confessions about Periods Being the Worst

When we first get our periods, we have so many questions, are freaked out about what’s going on with our bodies, and don’t feel prepared enough. What makes things harder is that we can be embarrassed to ask questions or talk about Auntie Flo coming to town with our friends, especially if we think that we’re one of the first to get our periods. It can leave us feeling alone and having to deal with PMS symptoms all by ourselves.

First off, girl, you’re not alone. There are countless people going through the exact same thing as you. If you still don’t feel comfortable talking to friends and family about it, people of the internet are here for you. And I’m here for you, too. If you’re looking for some relatable period talk, the Whisper app is just the thing. People always keep it real on the app, and that definitely applies when talking about menstruating. Here are 15 Whisper confessions about periods being the worst that will have you nodding in agreement.

1. Guuuuuh.

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Throwing out all of my light-colored clothing now.

2. Something to think about…

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A very good point. Is it coming? Why am I late? What’s wrong with me? Am I pregnant?

3. When you try to be proactive so it doesn’t catch you out.

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Will waste all the pads just to prevent unexpected stains and leaks.

4. When you think the cramps will legit be the end of you.

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S.O.S. Birth control.

5. Come on.

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I give up.

6. Freaking out.

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It’s at this point you debate about staying home.

7. That’s not coming out.

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And thanks for the panic.

8. Come out you spot.

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Can someone invent bed sheets that don’t stain? Pleeeeease.

9. When you’re trying to get your fitness on but freaked out.

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Curse you period.

10. Can’t stop the cravings.

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Well, you can for a bit, but it normally involves a lot of eating.

11. Period skin is real people.

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What is with these eruptions? Aren’t cramps bad enough?!

12. Why oh why?

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Do I really need to start keeping toilet paper in my purse?

13. Eeeeep.

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It’s sore just thinking about it.

14. It seems to get worse everything month.

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Welp!

15. When you’re trying to protect the sheets and it backfires.

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Better to live with embarrassment than stains.

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6 Things that will Creep your Crush TF Out

6 Things that will Creep your Crush TF Out

When it comes to having a crush, the last thing you want to do is come across as creepy. Being awkward or clumsy are legit better than coming across as creepy. If we’re being real here, if your crush finds you a bit creepy, there’s really no way to fully recover from it.

I get that you’re interested in your crush, you have a lot of emotions, and you’re trying to get your crush to notice you even though it seems like he/she thinks your invisible. That can sometimes lead to more extreme measures and a bit of desperation, but be careful. You definitely don’t want to make it look like you’re stalking your crush or that you’re coming on too strong.

If you want to avoid coming off as creepy around your crush, avoid these six things. And remember that if you have to debate about whether something is creepy, it is.

 

Go By Your Crush’s Place Just To See What He/She Is Doing

Let’s stick to the rule that unless we have to be in the neighborhood for a legitimate reason, it’s best to avoid hanging around or *passing by* your crush’s house. It’s one step away from hanging out in a tree with binoculars. Besides, what’s the point of it? It’s very unlikely your crush will be outside and if he/she is, you cannot really just stare from the sidewalk. And if you know your crush and he/she asks what you’re doing, what are you going to say? Image source: Instagram/gpraf

Continuously Stare At Your Crush Without Breaking Eye Contact

Just writing that made me feel a bit creepy and hopefully it made you see how awkward it can be. I get that your crush is dreamy and gazing at his/her beauty might put you in a trance, but try not to get sucked in. Humans often sense when people are looking at them and you don’t want your crush to catch you in the middle of a daze where you mouth is open, your eyes are glazed over, and you’re not looking away. #Awkward Image source: Instagram/kolakowska.agata

Bring Up Random Things Your Crush Posted On Social Media From Weeks Ago

Social media is great because you can find out more about your crush. The key thing is that if you’re creeping your crush’s profiles that you don’t make it obvious. Imagine if you were having a conversation with someone and they started bringing up things you wrote or posted on social media from three weeks ago that you don’t even remember. You’d probably be a bit freaked out, right? Image source: Instagram/annalewismusic

Show Up At All The Events That Your Crush Is Going To Be At

I know that you probably want to be around your crush as much as possible, but it needs to be within reason. I’m sure you can find out places your crush is going to be through friends, social media, or school, but showing up at all of them just so you can see your crush’s beautiful face can majorly backfire, especially if you’re showing up at events that you weren’t invited to or don’t have any interest in. It’s one thing to go to a party where you know people, but it’s another to go to an event just to stare at your crush and not talk to anyone. When you do it enough times, your crush and other people will likely catch on. Image source: Instagram/cassandra__dream

Become Possessive Of Your Crush

I know that you might have some strong feelings for your crush, but I want to make it clear that your crush is not attached to you. You do not own him/her nor do you control him/her. And a relationship won’t even change that. Therefore, be careful that you don’t act like you do. Your crush can talk to whoever he/she wants and hang out with anyone. Do not become the whiny person who complains to their crush about why they’re hanging out with so-and-so and not you. Image source: Instagram/steffiiffi_xx1996

Bombard Your Crush With Texts

It’s great that you and your crush are close enough that you text back and forth. But, texting a crush is a bit of science and sending the wrong messages can backfire in a few different ways. You also need to be careful about the frequency of your messages. Sending a regular stream of messages asking your crush where’s he/she what, what’s he/she doing, when he/she is going to be back, and who he/she is hanging out with, is a little too intense. TBT, it’s not really your business. Image source: Instagram/aliciaaragon73

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5 Inspiring Women on How They Feel Confident in Swimwear

5 Inspiring Women on How They Feel Confident in Swimwear

Last summer, unfiltered pictures of women of all ages and sizes wearing swimwear went viral. Judging by the sheer volume of shares and comments, these images struck a chord because they helped many feel more confident about wearing a bikini or swimsuit (which can be daunting).

We spoke to inspiring women to find out how they learnt to feel comfortable wearing a bikini—whether at the beach or in front of 3.3 million people on Instagram (as it is in the case of model and social media star Iskra Lawrence). Each of these inspiring women also revealed the swimwear pieces they always lean on and make them feel their best. Keep scrolling to see how Charli Howard, Iskra Lawrence and others feel confident in swimwear.

As for what makes her feel more confident on the beach, Iskra adds: “Knowing that everyone else is feeling the same way and not letting my body hold me back from enjoying myself and living life to its fullest, especially at the beach, which is one of my favourite places to have fun and relax.”
As for her favourite swimwear brands, Gillean tells us: “There is a swimsuit line in L.A. called Robin Piccone which I love, Norma Kamali two-piece suits fit well, and a few months ago, I bought one from Trina Turk. For practice swimwear, I buy Tyr, as that brand fits me so well and has a great selection of styles and sizes, which work for every body.”
“I have a quick word with myself whenever I start spinning about things that make me feel insecure about my body,” Katherine adds. “Even at my fittest and slimmest, I’ve had those moments—but you just have to take a minute and say, I’m healthy, I live an active life and I should feel alright in my swimmers. I also think as soon as you get on to any European beach and see 80-year-old grannies with their tops off and stretch marks proudly tanning in the sun, you get a bit of perspective. Literally, no one is sitting on the beach thinking, ‘jeez, my body is perfect.’ You just have to try and let go of those negative thoughts and be okay with yourself in the moment. Finally, I’d say I’m friends with and have worked with some of the most gorgeous women in the world—and they are down on their bodies just as much as the rest of us. Ultimately, you probably will feel a bit insecure because everyone does, but if you do a bit of a pre-holiday regime and then give yourself a break, you’re going to be far more confident on the beach.”
Charli posts lots of unfiltered images on Instagram of her wearing swimwear—this week she posted a close-up of her cellulite. “I think that it’s very common to see beach perfect bodies on Instagram, and whilst these women are quite clearly beautiful, they don’t represent other women out there,” Charli tells us. “I’ve been told that my bikini pictures are refreshing for a lot of women to see. It makes them feel ‘normal’. None of us is perfect, but that doesn’t mean you can’t rock your body in a bikini! Don’t get me wrong, sometimes you get a mean comment, and it can totally ruin your day. I’m only human, and it’s human nature to want to be liked. But then I remember that my worth isn’t based on what others make of me. If I like how my body looks, then that’s all that matters.” As for the swimwear that always makes her feel confident, Charli says, “I love a new swimwear brand called Phylyda, which is where you can mix and match different styles to flatter your unique body shape. This is great, as a lot of low-cut bikini styles just don’t suit me, and give me a muffin top or make me look bigger than I am. I’ve started wearing a lot more high-waisted styles, which give me curves in the right places and most importantly, more confidence.”
As for the swimwear that makes her feel the most confident, Clémentine tells us: “I love brands that understand my curves without trying to hide them. I am a big fan of one-pieces—not because I can’t do a bikini, but because they are super comfy, and I don’t have to think twice about jumping waves, running, doing yoga or anything else. It’s also chicer.”
Lily is a swimwear expert, so I had to ask which styles make her feel the most confident: “Italians love wearing skimpy bikini bottoms, and like I said, having wide hips means there is more bottom to cover, however, it was my mother who taught me that wearing a great cut bikini bottom with a scoop cut is far more flattering than hiding under swathes of fabric. Buying swimwear for me was as important and as fun as buying any other item of clothing in my wardrobe, which it should be. My mum was all about the full outfit on the beach—bikini, kaftan, pretty sandals and earrings … the works. When I choose a bikini or swimsuit, it’s like I’m choosing any other outfit. A combination of all these factors is what has made the beach the positive place for me it is today.” As for brands, Lily advises: “Some of my favourites are Camilla, Eberjey and Lazul. Each of these pays a lot of attention to how they are cut and if they stay in place when worn, which is a must-have with swimwear. The last thing you want to be doing is worrying if you are going to expose yourself when you’re meant to be relaxing in the sun.” When it comes to finding a bikini that will make you feel confident, she says: “Don’t follow trends, just wear what you like and what best suits your shape. If you aren’t familiar with many swimwear brands, I always recommend buying a few to try on in the comfort of your own home. Trying on swimwear in department stores can be really depressing, as the lighting is always far too harsh. Familiarise yourself with the different cuts of different brands, and when you find one you love, stick to it. Part of my job is to try out every new brand before we decide to stock them on the site, so I can give advice and make sure we love the brand before we start selling it to our customers. Our team are always on hand to give customers bikini-buying advice.”
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Iskra Lawrence is one of the models leading the body-positive movement, as she constantly reminds her 3.3 million followers on Instagram of the trickery that goes into those perfect bikini models shots you typically see. “I’ve always loved wearing swimwear,” she tells us. “I was actually a national swimmer in my teens, so I got comfortable quickly. I’m a huge fan of swimwear that makes me feel comfortable and supported, so that started off with my one-piece Speedos, and now I enjoy wearing bright colours, bold prints and have even been experimenting with ruffles. I also love a high-leg and high-waisted style for the bottoms. As for labels, nearly all of my swimwear is Aerie,” says Lawrence.

As for what makes her feel more confident on the beach, Iskra adds, “Knowing that everyone else is feeling the same way and not letting my body hold me back from enjoying myself and living life to its fullest—especially at the beach—which is one of my favourite places to have fun and relax.”

Two summers ago, an image of 60-year-old Gillean McLeod modelling a black swimsuit for H&M went viral. “People loved the fact that I—or anyone at the age of 60—would feel fine in front of a camera,” says McLeod. According to her, the photo was proof that “anyone can be in a swimsuit and enjoy themselves at the pool or beach. What if you woke up one day and felt terrible that you didn’t swim on your holiday because you thought your thighs or hips were big? It’s ridiculous, and no one cares. I received messages from women all over the world about that one image, all saying how it inspired them and that they were going to go to the pool.”

“I have always loved swimwear, both performance swimwear and fashion bathing suits. My school holidays as a child in Malaysia saw me either at the beach or at someone’s pool, and so it was what I wore every day,” says McLeod. “At 50, I joined a masters swim team at my local pool. Our workouts were gruelling, and because the focus was on the swimming and not body image, all insecurities were washed away. The plus side of swimming hard was a much more toned body. However, having been a swimmer my whole life, wearing a suit in public is totally normal to me.”

As for her favourite swimwear brands, Gillean tells us, “There’s a swimsuit line in L.A. called Robin Piccone that I love, Norma Kamali two-piece suits fit well, and a few months ago I bought one from Trina Turk. For practice swimwear, I buy Tyr, as that brand fits me so well and has a great selection of styles and sizes.”

In 2015, model Charli Howard wrote a powerful open letter on Facebook about being dropped from her agency when she was a size six. Since then, Howard has been fighting for wider representation in the industry. Last year, the model, who is now represented by Muse Models NYC, launched the All Woman Project, which created a campaign starring 10 diverse models wearing swimwear.

“Throughout my teens, I never wore a bikini. Not once,” Howard tells us. “If I went to the beach, I’d wear a costume with a T-shirt on top. It didn’t help that I’d constantly see perfect bodies in magazines or online, and if a celebrity had cellulite or wasn’t 100% in shape, gossip magazines would point those flaws out and make fun of them. These pictures didn’t encourage me to go out and do the same—if anything, it made me more self-conscious,” she says.

Howard says that her journey to confidence in a bikini wasn’t quick. She says, “I only began feeling comfortable wearing swimwear last year when I started the All Woman Project and had to wear a bikini in the photos. I realised my body wasn’t all that bad in a bikini and that life’s too short to worry about what other people think.”

Howard posts lots of unfiltered images on Instagram of her wearing swimwear. “I think that it’s very common to see beach perfect bodies on Instagram, and whilst these women are quite clearly beautiful, they don’t represent other women out there,” Charli tells us.

I’ve been told that my bikini pictures are refreshing for a lot of women to see. It makes them feel ‘normal.’ None of us is perfect, but that doesn’t mean you can’t rock your body in a bikini! Don’t get me wrong—sometimes you get a mean comment and it can totally ruin your day. I’m only human, and it’s human nature to want to be liked. But then I remember that my worth isn’t based on what others make of me. If I like how my body looks, then that’s all that matters,” says Howard.

As for the swimwear that always makes her feel confident, she says, “I love a new swimwear brand called Phylyda, which is where you can mix and match different styles to flatter your unique body shape. This is great, as a lot of low-cut bikini styles just don’t suit me and give me a muffin top or make me look bigger than I am. I’ve started wearing a lot more high-waisted styles, which give me curves in the right places and—most importantly—more confidence.”

French model and blogger Clémentine Desseaux, who launched the All Woman Project with Charli Howard, tells us of her relationship with swimwear: “It used to be a very traumatising experience like it is for most women. I felt like I always needed to hide my body that society didn’t qualify as a ‘beach body.’ I felt ashamed.”

“Now I love my body in any swimwear and am able to walk around proudly in it wherever I am. It all comes with time but also practice. You have to decide that you’ll wear whatever you love regardless of other people’s opinions or sometimes even your own judgments. I learned to take myself by the hand and say, ‘Yes, you are worthy and sexy, and you can wear that,'” says Desseaux.

“Modelling really helped my confidence and moving to Miami was the best thing for me,” she adds. “I saw women of all shapes wearing tiny bikinis, which was mind-blowing for me, coming from France where we’re so, so self-conscious!”

As for the swimwear that makes her feel most confident, Clémentine tells us, “I love brands that understand my curves without trying to hide them. I am a big fan of one-pieces, not because I can’t do a bikini, but because they are super comfy and I don’t have to think twice about jumping waves, running, doing yoga or anything else. It’s also chicer.”

Swimwear has become a career for fashion editor Lily Russo, as she is the co-founder of swimwear shopping site Beach Flamingo. “When I was in my early teens, I was always much taller than my friends and had wider hips than them, which meant I was always aware of being ‘larger,’ even though I was probably still quite a small dress size,” Russo says of her relationship with swimwear.

“Ironically, my most body-confident moments and memories are from my summer holidays in Puglia, Italy, on the beach in a bikini. In warmer countries, it is so normal to have your body on show—no matter your size—so I found it very liberating compared to London where I would always cover up. I’ve always been very active on the beach too, whether swimming in the water or playing bat and ball on the beach,” says Russo.

“My mother always gave us body confidence and always told us we had great bodies,” she adds. “She would always say enjoy your body now, as this is the best it will ever be. Which is so true. When you’re young, you can get caught up comparing yourself to others who have a completely different body shape, but I accepted a long time ago that there will always be someone both thinner and larger than me, so I should be happy with the way I am.

“Finding a way to exercise that’s fun is how I’ve dealt with turning 30 and realising you need to do more exercise and take care of your fitness as you get older. I’ve always danced, but three years ago, I started doing Brazilian Samba dancing and it has completely changed my body shape. I used to dance when I was younger, and after so many years taking a break, you don’t realise how rigid your body becomes despite going to the gym or swimming. Dancing is all about using every part of your body—it makes you feel invigorated,” says Russo.

Since Russo is a swimwear expert, I had to ask about the styles that make her feel the most confident. “Italians love wearing skimpy bikini bottoms, and like I said, having wide hips means there’s more bottom to cover. However, it was my mother who taught me that wearing a great-cut bikini bottom with a scoop cut is far more flattering than hiding under swathes of fabric,” she says.

Buying swimwear, for me, was as important and as fun as buying any other item of clothing in my wardrobe, which it should be. My mum was all about the full outfit on the beach—bikini, kaftan, pretty sandals and earrings … the works. When I choose a bikini or swimsuit, it’s like I’m choosing any other outfit. A combination of all these factors is what has made the beach the positive place for me it is today,” says Russo.

As for brands, she advises, “Some of my favourites are Camilla, Eberjey and Lazul. Each of these pays a lot of attention to how they are cut and if they stay in place when worn, which is a must-have with swimwear. The last thing you want to be doing is worrying if you’re going to expose yourself when you’re meant to be relaxing in the sun.”

When it comes to finding a bikini that’ll make you feel confident, Russo says, “Don’t follow trends; just wear what you like and what best suits your shape. If you aren’t familiar with many swimwear brands, I always recommend buying a few to try on in the comfort of your own home. Trying on swimwear in department stores can be really depressing, as the lighting is always far too harsh.”

She also stresses the importance of doing research on swimwear before purchasing: “Familiarise yourself with the different cuts of different brands, and when you find one you love, stick to it. Part of my job is to try out every new brand before we decide to stock them on the site, so I can give advice and make sure we love the brand before we start selling it to our customers. Our team’s always on hand to give customers bikini-buying advice.”

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Quiz: Are You Too Insecure to be in a Relationship?

Quiz: Are You Too Insecure to be in a Relationship?

If you are thinking about making things a little more serious with someone you’ve been seeing–as in, like, making the transition from “dating” to “relationship,” or even just the transition between “non-exclusive” and “exclusive”–you probably have a lot on your mind. You want to make sure you can trust your partner, you want to ensure that you have enough time for relationship ,and, obviously, you want to make sure that you’ll be happy together.

Another thing worth considering? How secure–or, in more people’s cases, how insecure–you feel about yourself and the relationship.

Now, to be clear, it’s not as though you have to be 100% sure of yourself and every single thing you are doing in order to be in a relationship. Hardly anyone feels totally secure all the time, so, were that the case, no one in the world could ever date anyone. But if you carry a certain level of insecurity around with you, and try to use your relationship as a bandage to slap over this insecurity, it’s only going to make things worse for you and your partner. The good news? You can work on it. You just need to know where you stand. So, take this quiz to find out if you’re actually too insecure to be in a relationship:

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Quiz: Are You Actually An Introvert?

Quiz: Are You Actually An Introvert?

By this point in your life, chances are good that you have noticed at least one thing: That most people, in most cases, really love labeling themselves. You know, like, with Buzzfeed quizzes. Sex and the City characters. (I️ am a Miranda and I️ am proud!) Love Language types. (You may win me over by spending some Quality Time with me, if you would like. Then, of course, there is the original binary—introvert vs. extrovert.

Being an introvert, if you are unfamiliar, generally means that you gain energy from being by yourself. Being an extrovert, on the other hand, indicates that you gain energy by being around other people. And, for whatever reason, people often seem more inclined to label themselves i️ntroverts. And maybe you are an introvert! But, perhaps, you aren’t. Whatever you think now, you should probably take this quiz to find out if you are really an introvert or an extrovert:

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Should You Become Friends w/ Your Ex?

Should You Become Friends w/ Your Ex?

If you’ve broken up with bae, you might likely think that’s the end of your time with the person. After all, there’s probably a pretty big reason why you broke up, right? That’s normally the case in most relationships. But after some time a part to let the heart feel, people sometimes find themselves reconnecting with their exes. They might have no intention of getting back together, yet they might be considering continuing a friendship with their ex.

If you’re in a similar situation and wondering whether it’s a good thing to do, I’ve got some food for thought. Even if you’re not in the situation and are wondering whether people can really be friends with their exes, listen up.

Real talk: Can people ever really be friends with exes?

If you’ve recently broken up with your boyfriend/girlfriend, you’re probably doubting that this is possible. But, there are people who can genuinely be friends with their exes. It might take some time a part and some work, but it can happen. Just look at the number of couples on the internet who go viral for their cordial co-parenting. You likely don’t have a kid or any other major baggage involved with your ex, but kid or not kid, the situations show that people can be friends with their exes if both parties are open to it.

Becoming friends is also something that some former couples might naturally do if they were friends before things turned romantic.

Won’t it be nothing but awkwardness?

Not necessarily. Yes, there will be a bit of a transition period as you and your ex change out of being baes to being friends, but in time that will go away. Remember: Both of you are in control of the situation which means that you have the power to make it less awkward.

What if one us wants to be friends in the hopes of getting back together?

That could be a reason why one party is doing it, which is why it’s always a good idea to set some ground rules about what type of friendship this is. i.e. Is it strictly a friendship, a friends with benefits thing, or what. Of course, even if people say these things, the heart can sometimes take control. If you find that you’re struggling with old romantic feeling with your ex and being around him/her makes it worse, you might need some more time a part or consider hanging around more in groups where things are more chill.

After hearing this, is it really a good idea to become friends with an ex?

It’s really a personal decision and there’s no right or wrong answer. The answer will likely change depending on why and how you broke up, whether you were friends before, and whether you hang around the same group of people now. You’ll also want to consider the fact that your ex is probably someone who knows you very well. He/she might even have seen sides of you that you don’t show other people. You might like the idea of having someone you’re that close with in your life again who you can talk to abut specific things. And your ex might feel the same way.

Are there any times you should NOT be friends with an ex?

Again, it’s a personal call. There are so many variables to consider that are unique to you. Don’t feel that you need to decide whether to be friends with an ex right away. You will likely need to go through a grieving period and spend some time away from your ex before you can decide what to do about a friendship, if anything. Note that your ex may or may not feel the same. Or, he/she might take longer to heal.

If you were cheated on, your ex was schemer/liar, or a bad influence on you, you will want to seriously consider whether you still want someone like that in your life or whether you’re better off without him/her.

Do we have to discuss the breakup to become friends?

If you feel like there was unfinished business when you two split up, you might feel like there’s a white elephant in the room whenever you hang out. Some couples-turned-friends might find it healing to discuss it as it could help them get closure and start a new chapter. If you cannot discuss the split, it might lead to problems later.

Do you have any tips for being friends with exes?

To build on what I was talking about the breakup, you have to be careful about harping on the past. While it can be good to talk about why you split up, how you’ve changed, and how you hope to move passed it, you don’t want to keep bringing up negative things from the past. That’s not the right kind of attitude to build a friendship on. Focus on the good times.

On that note, you shouldn’t expect your ex to change completely now that your friends. He/she will likely still have the same little quirks you found irksome before and he/she definitely isn’t going to change them now that you’re not a couple.

Watch out when one or both of you start dating again. You might think that you’re cool with your ex-turned-friend dating, but seeing him/her with a new SO for the first time might hit you harder than expected. It’s normal and should go away with time by reminding yourself that you are friends with your ex. There might also be a bit of jealously at first with the new SO seeing your friendship with your ex, but that should dissipate quickly after you make it clear you’re in the friend zone.

Remember, if it feels good to have your ex in your life again as a friend, that’s an amazing thing. You two could end up forming a great bond for life.

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7 Signs that Someone is Flirting with you Online

7 Signs that Someone is Flirting with you Online

If you are anything like me, when someone is flirting with you, it is nearly impossible for you to tell. Like, you are aware that there is a distinction, technically, between someone having a regular one-on-one conversation with you, and someone who is genuinely flirting with you. But how is one to tell the difference? And at what cost?

And, of course, all of this is assuming that the flirting (or not-flirting, depending on which end of the bargain you’ve received) is happening IRL. If it is not happening in real life, and is occurring, say, online, or via text message, this already-murky line grows even murkier. It can feel impossible to decipher! But, thankfully, it isn’t actually impossible—so, check out some signs that someone is flirting with you online:

 

They Make An Effort To Follow You On Multiple Social Platforms

Maybe you started off being connected on, say, Instagram. A few weeks later, they follow you on Twitter, and a few weeks after that, they request you on Facebook. This is pretty simple, but it’s an easy way for someone to show that they’re interested in you and want to solidify your relationship a little more. Image source: Getty

They Like Your Stuff

I mean, duh. This is the biggest hint. They like your photos, like your tweets, like your statuses, they like…whatever you have on whatever channel of social media they might follow you on. Of course, some liking is just friendly, and some people just like a lot of things, so you can’t read too much into this. Still, if your crush likes your content, and they do so consistently, this is a pretty good sign. Image source: Getty

They Might Leave A Comment

A way for someone to make their “like” have a bit more impact is by leaving a comment, too. The actual content of the comments they leave might not actually be that flirty–not everyone can leave, like, heart eyes and eggplant emojis on everything–but if they’re consistently commenting on stuff, that’s a pretty good sign that they’re trying to flirt with you. Image source: Getty

They Text First

Maybe your relationship has progressed to a level at which you’ve exchanged phone numbers and have started texting. If so, pay attention to who’s starting the conversation–if they’re the ones doing it, that’s a pretty obvious sign that they like you. Of course, you shouldn’t always wait for someone to text you first. If you do this, they could assume that you don’t like them and move on to someone else. Image source: Getty

They Make It Clear They Want To Have A Conversation

When they text or DM you, they don’t just send an emoji or a one-word response–they send questions, sometimes with actual question marks attached. (And not just questions like “what are you wearing?”and “what would you be doing if I was there right now?”) This, as with actual IRL texting, is a sign that they’re interested in you as a person and would like to get to know you better. Image source: Getty

Having An Online Relationship Becomes A Habit

I don’t mean, like, a relationship relationship here–what I mean is that you both get in the habit of texting, DMing, and liking each other’s stuff on a regular basis so that, eventually, interacting with them online becomes a part of your day. This can be a good way to lay the foundations of a relationship, but it can definitely be frustrating if you’re carving out what feels like a legitimate, whole relationship in one part of your life with nothing in another part of your life. So, just be careful as to how long this goes on–if this type of flirting goes on for too long, you might find that any IRL relationship you might have had flames out before it even gets started. Image source: Getty

They Make An Effort To Take It IRL

The surest sign that someone is flirting with you online? They don’t actually keep it online for too long! Unless there’s a lot of distance between you two, they should make an effort to do something in real life at some point. If you feel like they’re taking too long, you can ask them yourself–it’s possible that they’ve been waiting for you to do it. Either way, try not to wait too long. Image source: Getty

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How to Deal if you Don’t Like your Guy Friend’s Girlfriend

How to Deal if you Don’t Like your Guy Friend’s Girlfriend

Guy friends can be pretty great. They can be hilarious, fun to hang around, and we can pick their brains to figure out what our crush’s confusing signals really mean. They can be a great addition to any friendship squad, but things can sometimes get a bit complicated when one (or both) of you gets into a relationship.

Sometimes, a new bae might not understand the (platonic) relationship you and your guy friend have. A new bae could feel threatened or jealous. Another problem you can encounter is when your guy friend gets a girlfriend that you don’t like. It can be especially awkward if your guy friend wants you to hang out with his GF. Here’s what to do if one of your guy friends has a new girlfriend, but you don’t really like her.

Help! I don’t like my good guy friend’s girlfriend and I don’t know what to do.

Sorry to hear. I know it’s an awkward situation to be in. One of the first things you should do is try and figure out why you don’t like her. Be honest with yourself here. Is it the idea of her that you don’t like or is it the actual person? For example, are you not into the idea of your guy friend having a girlfriend because you feel threatened and you’re concerned he’ll spend all his time with her from now on? Or, do actually not like her because of her actions and/or personality?

I’m concerned that he might not hang out with me as much, but it’s her as a person I’m not so keen on.

It is a genuine concern that anyone in a new relationship might lose sight of their current friends and family. Sometimes, they don’t even realize they’re doing it. Maybe you’ve even done it yourself. Remember, that you two have a great connection and your guy friend will eventually realize he’s not giving you enough attention.

As for dealing with the new girlfriend that you’re not feeling, have you given her a chance? Have you hung out with her a couple of times? Have you hung out just the two of you? Are your opinions of her based on experiences or on rumors you’ve heard from other people? Even if she doesn’t seem like the best person, try to give her a chance. It’s likely she’s nervous and we all know that nerves can make people behave weirdly. She might also be intimidated by you and be stressed you’re not going to like her, but she’s not sure what to do. So, try and take the lead and reach out to her.

What should I do?

If you’re hanging out in a group situation, make an effort to make her feel included. If there are people that she doesn’t know, introduce her to them. Try to avoid taking her to have a “quiet chat” because she will probably find that really intimidating and think you’re going to give the old “you break his heart, I will not be cool with it” talk. Let’s avoid those discussions for now.

Down the road if you feel like you’ve got a friendship budding, you can suggest hanging out in relaxed setting. Invite her to a yoga class or to grab a coffee.

What should I do if I have a problem with her intentions?

This is a tricky one. Has she done something to your guy friend directly or has she done anything to affect him negatively? Crucially, have you seen it yourself or are you basing it off of what other people say? It’s hard because you want to protect your guy friend, but you also don’t want to overact to something because that could make things unnecessarily awkward and kill any chance of you being a dynamic trio.

Should I tell my guy friend how I feel?

If it’s just her personality that you’re not into, think carefully before you bring it up to your guy friend. He obviously sees something great in her and maybe you just haven’t been around her long enough to see it. On the flip side, he could be blinded by love and not see what’s going on.

If you’ve been hanging out with your guy friend’s new girlfriend for a while and you still don’t seem to be bonding, you might want to consider asking your friend about his GF’s interests or past times and explain you’re looking for ways to get to know her better. It will show you’re interested and trying but it won’t make things awkward.

If you are thinking this girl is shady and you have the proof for yourself, you will have to consider what to do with the information. You want to protect your friend, but you don’t want to be coming to him with a “what if, just in case” scenario. FYI: Even if you’re the messenger, it’s sometimes the messenger who gets hit and your guy friend could be offended and/or embarrassed about what you reveal. The bottom line is that if you want to protect your guy friend, go with your gut decision.

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7 Things to Talk about with your Crush if you’re Struggling to Make a Connection

7 Things to Talk about with your Crush if you’re Struggling to Make a Connection

Growing up, I never really had any issues talking to guys because I was a tomboy; I liked playing video games, watching Dragon Ball Z, and eating cheeseburgers. I was also chubby, so even though I was good at talking to boys, none of it really mattered because my chunky lil’ third grade self wasn’t exactly the hottest thing on the playground.

That said: even though it seemed like a useless skill at the time, it’s become crazy helpful in recent years. Talking to guys on Tinder is now more of a game to me than it is to my friends, who struggle to get a response past, “Not much, how about you?” And it’s not for their lack of trying – it’s just that I’m pretty good at figuring out at least ONE thing I can talk to guys about that we have in common, whereas they focus more on what they want to talk about.

Example: I have a friend who’s really into horses – like, she was probably one of those girls who had a horse backpack and folder and lunchbox when she was younger. She’s not a crazy horse girl anymore, by any stretch of the imagination, but most dudes don’t ride and/or care about horses. So it should come as no surprise that I see most dudes’ eyes glaze over when she starts talking about galloping… or whatever one does with a horse.

With that being said, here are seven topics that are better than horses (when it comes to guys, at least!). These are sure bets to bring up whenever you find yourself struggling to make a connection:

 

Your Hobbies

What do you do that’s cool? Do you maybe play field hockey, row crew, or play in a band? Whatever it is, figure out something he’s into that’s similar and try to connect over it. Maybe he plays ice hockey, likes boats, and beat every level on Guitar Hero – close enough, right? The point is to figure out something you’re interested in that you can banter with him about…but make sure it’s something you think he would be interested in. Remember that story I told about my horse friend in the introduction? Yeah, horses are generally a no-go, because most people probably aren’t into them. Other good topics to avoid are anything you know he hates or things that are more controversial, like the Kardashians or something. The point is for him to be able to relate to you, not listen to you talk about a bunch of things he both knows nothing about and does not care for. Source: iStock

Food

There’s a reason there’s a trillion video and memes of food on the Internet, and it’s because food is the bomb. Who doesn’t like food? You literally have to like it to live. Do you like cooking? Maybe try cooking with him one night. Or if the kitchen isn’t your scene, talk about restaurants you both like or compare burgers from different fast food joints. It doesn’t really matter – when it comes to conversation, food is almost always a safe bet. Source: iStock

Let Him Start The Convo and Go From There

This is a little less straightforward, but if you’re a little nervous and don’t want to say the “wrong” thing (which isn’t possible, but we’ve all been there) go ahead and let him lead the conversation. Instead of talking about yourself, listen to what he says and asks questions from there. For example, if he says, “My family just got a new puppy, we named her Nicky.” From there you can ask: • What kind of dog is she? • Where’d you get her from? • Do you have any other pets? It’s really about steering the conversation towards himself so that he always has something to reply back with as long as you keep feeding him questions. Along with the questions, you should always try to throw in little bits about yourself (“I have a dog too! His name is nutters”) so that he has the opportunity to reciprocate. Source: iStock

Video Games

I don’t really play any games that have come out on newer systems; instead I mostly play my old N64 and GameCube. But you know what? That’s gotten me through thousands of conversations with dudes I’ve just met because they all have that nostalgia when it comes to consoles from their youth. If you’ve ever played Mario Party or Super Smash Brothers and can somehow work that into a conversation I’ll guarantee that every dude’s face in your five-foot radius will light up. It’s truly a game changer, just don’t try to throw it in there disingenuously – you can smell fakeness from a mile away, and so can he. Source: iStock

Sports

Are you crushing on someone who is really into sports? You don’t have to watch every single game, but the ability to talk about current players on his fantasy team is always helpful. Personally, I fail at this because I can’t even fake like I’m interested in football or whatever else is on ESPN – and honestly, you don’t want to fake it. Yet I have female friends who plop down on the couch for Sunday night football and don’t talk about the game when they meet new dudes. What?!! Girl, you have a GIFT, you can pay attention and actually ENJOY a sports game! Publish that shit in the local newspaper and you’ll have men trying to bust down your door looking for a date. Source: iStock

School

This seems like a “duh,” but for some reason, a lot of girls skip over talking about one thing you both definitely have in common: school. Have you both had the same teacher before? What about an annoying group project that’s coming up? This is literally the easiest topic to go with because the majority of both your days is spent in class, and there’s undoubtedly at least ONE interesting thing that happened in those couple hours. And if he hates school and is a bit of a burnout – you can do better. Source: iStock

Television

Who doesn’t watch TV? This is another home run if you both have a few shows you both watch. They don’t even have to be recent! On my first date with my now-boyfriend we talked about The O.C. for forty-five minute while drinking margaritas. Fairly safe shows to pick are also Game of Thrones, Breaking Bad and Stranger Things – but don’t bring up something you haven’t watched just because you know he likes it. That’s just… weird. Source: iStock

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10 Little Signs your Relationship is Doomed

10 Little Signs your Relationship is Doomed

In a perfectly romantic world, every relationship that began would last forever in a happy bubble. As I’m sure many of you know well, this is not how things go. Many relationships, most of them, some would argue, end in heartbreak. While the breakup is probably the toughest thing to go through, I would say that the moment of realization that your relationship is doomed comes pretty damn close. The end of a relationship is usually the saddest – the weeks or months of trying to make things work, even though you both know they probably won’t, clinging to hope something will change, and then finally accepting that it’s over. It’s tough!

But maybe it would be a little less tough if you knew what signs to look out for, so that you could end things faster – rip off the band-aid, as they say. Being without the person sucks in the beginning, but it sucks just as much to be with someone in an empty, hopeless way. If you know the signs that the end is near, it’s harder to convince yourself that everything is fine. When I was in college, I had to end a four year relationship that wasn’t working anymore. Because I had genuinely believed we were going to last forever, it took me close to a year to finally break up with him. I felt all the signs mentioned below, but kept convincing myself that they were normal and would go away, and that’s part of the reason our breakup was so drawn out. So, to keep you from doing the same thing, here are a few signs that your relationship is doomed:

There Is A Very Specific Reason You’re Still With This Person

Ask yourself honestly why you’re still dating this person. Is there a specific reason other than, “I love him/her and they make me so happy and I don’t want to be without them?” Like, for example, is the first reason that pops into your head one of these: 1. “If I break up with them, I’ll be single and alone and that scares me.” 2. “If I dump them right now, I won’t have a date to this upcoming wedding/prom/school dance/will have to cancel the vacation we planned.”” 3. “We live together and breaking up will be so complicated!” 4. “My parents/friends will be so sad if we break up.” You get it. If the main reason you’re still with this person is because of anything other than “I love them and they make me happy,” your relationship isn’t going to last. And be honest with yourself, please! Source: iStock

You Spend A Lot Of Time Imagining What Life Would Be Like Without Them

Everyone who has been in a long-term relationship knows that they have their moments where they wonder what their life would be like without their significant other. If you’re genuinely happy with the person, the daydreaming ends in a way that shows you you’d be happier with them. If your relationship is doomed, the daydreaming probably happens very often – and probably gives you a hint that life might be better without bae. When I knew I wanted to break up with my ex, I thought about life without him all the time, and sometimes I really, really wanted that life – but then I would get scared, and convince myself I didn’t. Again, be honest with yourself. If a relationship is going to last, you won’t constantly be thinking about life without it. Source: iStock

One Of You Is Leaving Soon

Are you guys seniors, going off to different colleges in different states next year? Is one of you planning on moving for some other reason in the next few months? I’m not saying it’s impossible to maintain a long-distance relationship, but when one or both people go through a major life change, other things change as well. It’s hard to maintain a relationship when you’re both going off to college in different places – really hard! And it’s not impossible, but chances are good that it won’t work. Source: iStock

Everything You Guys Do Together Feels Boring

Anyone who has ever been in a long-term relationship will admit that sometimes things feel boring. I’ve been with my fiance for seven years, and every once in a while I’m like, “Ugh, all we do is watch Netflix!” But then we go out and do something else or something and we have fun and that bored feeling disappears like it never happened. But if you always feel like being with this other person is boring and predictable, that could be a big problem. Relationships shouldn’t be boring, they should be fun. And you should feel okay with watching a lot of Netflix together because you simply enjoy being together – I feel like most of the time! Not to make this all about *me* but when I was with my ex, things started to feel that way. It didn’t matter what we did or where we went, I was always bored with him. I imagined life would be more exciting if I were doing anything else, and he wasn’t holding me back – and it became a huge issue. Source: iStock

You’ve Started To Blame Them For Things That Honestly Aren’t Really Their Fault

That little story brings me to my next point: if resentment has crept its way into your relationship, then things definitely aren’t looking good. Are you starting to silently blame your significant other for all the crappy things in your life? For example, when I was with my ex, I made him my whole life, and lost a lot of friends. Towards the end, I spent a lot of time thinking about how much better my life would be if I still had those friends, and how it was all his fault I didn’t – when really, it was my fault. I would get so angry at him! Maybe you feel bitter towards your bae if you stayed home from college for them, or if you missed out on certain things to be with them. It could be anything, but if you feel resentment towards them very often, that’s definitely not good. Source: iStock

Every Fight Leads Back To The Same Issue

One big sign that a relationship is doomed is that you guys are fighting over stupid stuff all the time. Another big sign is that every fight, no matter how small, somehow leads to a bigger issue that always gets brought up. Maybe a fight about cancelled plans turns into the same argument you’ve had about them lying to you about something in the past. Maybe a dumb argument about TV reminds you both to fight about that last time one of you betrayed the other one. Whatever the big issue it is, it keeps coming back to haunt you both no matter what. This means one, or both of you, are holding onto something huge – and you can’t move forward if you can’t move past it. Source: iStock

You’re Constantly Jealous Of Your Single Friends

The grass is always greener, right? Sure – but if you’re in a happy, committed relationship, you won’t be spending a lot of time feeling jealous of your single friends. Every once in a while, I’ll kind of miss being single, but then I look at my fiance and think, “OMG no I’d so much rather be with him” and I get happy. But when I was with my ex, I would feel incredibly jealous of my single friends and their lifestyle – so much that I started obsessing over it and pretending it was happening sometimes. This means you want to be single!! Source: iStock

You’ve Recently Met Someone You Connect To On A Deeper Emotional Level

Have you recently become friends with another guy (or girl) and you feel a seriously deep emotional connection to them? Maybe you tell them things before you tell your S.O. Maybe you call them first when you’re bored. Maybe you feel like they understand you better, like they just know you better. This is, uh, not good. It means you’re lacking something in your relationship, and maybe it’s not going to get fixed. Source: iStock

You’ve Stopped Caring About Their Feelings As Much

Think honestly about how you feel when you argue with them. Imagine getting in a huge fight, storming away, and leaving them crying or angry. What do you do? Spend some time feeling guilty about it and wonder how you can make things right? Or do you text a friend, go out and have fun, and do your own thing, with little to no thought about your bae is doing until much later on? Do you ignore their texts with barely a second thought? Do you bail on them at the last minute without really caring if they get mad? All of these things mean you don’t really care as much about their feelings as you once did, and that means that things are going downhill. Source: iStock

You’ve Started To Have A Crush On Someone Else

Okay, here’s a big one: if you’ve started to have a crush on someone else – not a harmless crush, but a real crush – that’s a big sign your relationship is doomed. You don’t start to fall for someone else if you’re perfectly happy and in love. When I was with my ex, I started to have a crush on another guy. At first, I made myself think it was innocent, but I soon realized it really wasn’t. It’s a big part of why our relationship ended. It’s really hard to stay with someone when your heart is with someone else. Source: iStock

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14 Reasons you Should Never Have Sex Outdoors

14 Reasons you Should Never Have Sex Outdoors

People can get bored of having sex in the same place. As comfy and roomy as beds are, sometimes adventurous couples are looking to freshen up their sex lives with some new scenery. Some people might be lazy and hook up in the family room or kitchen. Others might try car sex. Some people might decide to get it on outside.

If you’re considering getting nasty outside, you’ve probably heard the tales of couple’s ~*really hot*~ hookups under the stars. Chances are those tales are in fact tales and not accurate representations of what hooking up outside is really like. Most of the time, outdoor sex can be the worst. Not only are there legal issues to consider, there’s also the fact that you have to deal with Mother Nature. And she doesn’t take kindly to people ruining her landscaping. Have a gander at 14 reasons why you should actually never have sex outdoors:

1. You will be panicking the entire time about getting caught.

I heard branches cracking! Was that footsteps? Are those campers? What if Big Foot shows up?

2. You will get mud and twigs in some awkward places.

So much worse than getting sand in every crevice.

3. You will feel very, very exposed.

All those shrubs and trees don’t actually provide very much cover.

4. You can lose your footing easier.

Nothing sets the mood like slipping in the mud and skinning your knee on a rock.

5. The temperature will never be comfortable.

Too cold and you’ll be dealing with shrinkage. Too hot you’ll be sweating before you’re even in position.

6. Your souvenir will be bug bites.

Ever had a bug bite on a place where the sun don’t shine?

7. …And someone could get pooped on.

Sexy.

8. The ground is not comfortable.

Leaves, sticks, mud, and random trash definitely aren’t as comfortable as a bed.

9. The birds will be very distracting.

Is that crow judging me? Is that big one going to land in my hair?

10. Your fear of bugs will be stronger when you’re half-naked.

What if a spider crawls up my naked leg?!

11. You will debate about what to do with your clothes.

Definitely don’t want to take off my shoes. Probably best if we do this through the pants.

12. Finding a good position will be awkward.

Should we brace ourselves against this tree? What about this stump?

13. The smells can be distracting.

What is that smell? Seriously?!

14. You will feel like you need a shower afterwards.

So dirty. And where did all this sap come from?

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I KonMari-ed the Sh*t Out of My Kitchen and Here’s What Happened

I KonMari-ed the Sh*t Out of My Kitchen and Here’s What Happened

I don’t know when or where I first discovered Marie Kondo‘s first book, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up, but the second I saw the inviting title, I ordered it pronto. I’ve always struggled to keep my spaces straight – it just seemed to take too much time and require too much energy. However, after attempting the KonMari method in my own apartment and tackling the messiest thing of all, my kitchen equipment, I’m a big-time believer in the methodology.

When I moved into my San Francisco studio apartment five years ago, the kitchen bummed me out, but it wasn’t a deal breaker. The cabinets and arched doorframe were original from 1928, and I tried to let that cool bit of knowledge overshadow the fact that there was no window, no oven vent, no garbage disposal, and definitely no dishwasher. I didn’t ever feel inspired to cook, except for work or the occasional guest. As a result, the kitchen slumped into a random assortment of junk. I accumulated way beyond my means (I somehow ended up with five zesters and 50 kitchen towels . . . not to mention a drawer full of spare knives), and I avoided getting rid of anything! It became impossible to close cabinets unless they were fastened with rubber bands around the handles, and I always had to forcefully shove my drawers closed with my hip. And for years, I lived like this, with complete avoidance and neglect about everything.

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I tackled all my clothes, books, etc. in the order presented in the book, and even though I successfully tidied up each group of items, I still felt a lot of hesitation about my kitchen. I was so embarrassingly messy – me, the food editor! And yet, the time had come, and the overflowing cabinets begged to be sorted. I started with removing the stuff on the countertop and discovered a rotten avocado just casually decomposing in my napkin holder. (Ugh, I know. Wasting avocado is a sin, and sorry for the TMI.) Instead of supporting my usual habits of tiptoeing away from the mess, I bid a sweet “thank you” to the napkin holder (and, don’t laugh, the avocado too) and swiftly tossed them in the trash.

It became easier to purge as I moved along, to give away the kitchen tools that no longer served me, and to create a pile of the items I adore immensely. I let go of some of the things that had been gifted to me that I couldn’t see myself ever using and focused on the items I had invested in. My Vitamix! My knife set from culinary school! My few but beloved All-Clad pans! And when it came to the food in my cupboard, I tossed the snacks and seasonings I would probably never in a million years crave while cooking. Instead, I kept the things I can never get enough of: red lentil pasta, dried mango, lemon-flavored sardines, and capers. Yeah, I know my cupboard is weird, but it most definitely “sparks joy!” (This is the main point of the book: every item you own and that takes up space in your house should simply make you feel happiness – aka “spark joy” – when you touch it).

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For a good six hours on a Friday night, I scrubbed and tossed and reorganized. Then, I stepped back to take a look. I was overcome with an emotion I had never felt in my tiny apartment kitchen – excitement to cook and pride for the space I made my own. I’ll have you know, I now make breakfast and dinner every night, and I never see myself wanting to return to my old habits again. My kitchen used to be a throwaway space for me in my house, but now, I find myself giddy at opening a drawer to admire and use all the tools I love.

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